Kings Table - pros and cons?

What's a king's table??

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It is where the entire wedding party and their SOs sit with the bride and groom but instead of them all being on one side of the table (like a head table) they are seated at the table normally.

I prefer sweetheart table so that the wedding party can sit with their own SOs/family, but in the absence of that, a king's table is better than a heads table.

You could have the wedding party's SOs sit with their back to the guests. But in reality, no one really wants to watch your wedding party eat and your wedding party probably doesn't want that either so it won't matter if they're back is to the guests.

We're doing a Kings table. I love the idea of all of our friends and their SOs sitting with us. We're having it set up so mine and my fiance's backs won't be to any of our guests (there's a wall behind us), but others at our table will have their backs to guests. Can you do that?

I also went to a wedding that my fiance was in and we sat at the head table. The bride and groom moved their seats during speeches, but other than that you're not really sitting at the table much so even if your backs were to your guests it won't be for long. Also, this couples backs were to some guests.

^^whoops, the wedding we attended was a Kings table as well!

View Quoted Comment That sounds great! Are you and your fiance going to sit at the head of the table? Or in the middle?

I don’t like them at all. My friend did one at her wedding and we looked at the back of people’s heads all night. It honestly looked terrible. But I agree, sweetheart tables are too disconnected. We are doing a head table. And our bridal party’s SO’s will all have their own table. No ones backs will be facing the guests and we won’t feel completely separate from everyone.

In the middle. There are some singles in our party so if they don't have any SO to bring then we will have it where there is no one in front of us. But, bc of the size of our party if everyone has a plus one then inevitably someone will be seated across from us. Either way, were going to sit in the middle. Depending on the size of your venue you can do a Kings table and don't seat anyone in front of you.

You could also do a sweetheart table and on both sides of you do your wedding party. So you're still close to them but it's broken up.

I have to say, I was originally against sweetheart tables. However, for the 3 seconds you get alone with your spouse the whole night, it's nice. It basically acts as homebase. You're out and about, mingling with guests, or they are coming up to you. We definitely did not feel disconnected. In fact, it was nice to be able to run over to our small table and grab a bite before getting back to our guests.

I was in a wedding with a king's table once, and it was awkward. We were in the middle of all the tables. There was a ton of us, so it was hard to talk to anyone other than someone immediately next to you. I wasn't a huge fan. I also don't love the idea of separating bridal party from SOs. We felt that taking us out of the equation and seating bridal party members with other friends and family was better. Plus, our parents wanted to be at any head table as well, so that added more people. It just became too much.

View Quoted Comment Were you seated at a king's table without your SO? I thought a major selling point to a king's table was to be able to seat your bridal party with their SO's. Would you have enjoyed the kings table more if you could sit with your SO?

I am concerned that although we will get "alone" time at our sweetheart table, it won't really feel like alone time - as if the spotlight is on us and only us if we are sitting by ourselves. We are both kind of introverted, so although we know all eyes will be on us for the ceremony, we want some time when we feel like the "spotlight" isn't just on us.

We did a sweatheart table and it was really nice to have that extra time with hubby. It really didn't feel like all eyes were on us, it actually felt like we could sit back and enjoy each others company for a couple seconds without constant interruption.

View Quoted Comment I didn't have an SO at the time, so I can't really speak to that aspect. It is definitely the perk of the king's table over the head table. However, it then doubles the amount of people at the table. The thought of being at a table of like 20 people was more anxiety-inducing for me lol. We are also more introverted. To me, having a solitary place where we can steal away to grab a bite to eat and recharge was better than always being surrounded by people. Most people aren't just staring at the couple the entire time. If they are eating, then they are looking at their plate and possibly talking to the others at their table. If they're dancing, they're dancing. I feel like the only time everyone was looking in our direction was when people were giving toasts (the DJ also had the toasters stand next to us as they spoke).