Ladies: Who's Fh/h asked your parents for their permission/blessing?

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The same for us. We knew pretty quickly (9/10 months in) we wanted to get married but didn’t know when. A proposal was everything but necessary but I asked coz some girls still want the traditional,formal proposal even when they know they found the one.

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That's okay and super sweet in this situation.

Sounds like your FH is super romantic.

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":I would have been incredibly offended if he asked."This is the reason why I asked my FW for her opinion.

View Quoted Comment Society is much different than it previously was. So I think it's becoming less and less of a thing. So it's important to talk to the person you want to marry not that family. I think it was smart of you to ask her.

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It wasn't smart of me, it was smart of my sister , she gave me this piece of advice LOL.

My FH did ask my parents (both of them together), but it was for their blessing rather than their permission. From what my FH said afterwards, my dad teared and said something like, "Grace can make her own choices but we think you both are good for eachother and would love to have you as our son-in-law."


It was important to my FH because he is traditional and wanted to be respectful to them. He asked me if I would be OK with it first so I wouldn't be offended and think he was questioning my autonomy. My dad wasn't expecting to ever be asked (since my sister and I are very independent) so he was caught off guard but definitely was touched. Nothing phases my mom so she was more exited for the both of us than anything.

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CUTE story! As long as no one is offended.

Oh boy, was this an issue hahaha

So my first marriage was a disaster. He basically lied (asked for my dadʻs blessing, he didnʻt outright say "no" but said at least wait) and proposed to me anyways telling me that my parents were fully on board and supportive (I was young and this was VITAL) so I was like, "Wow, ok, cool, if they love you and us, then it must be right!" Turns out they were completely in the dark and not happy about it, so he rushed the proposal and the wedding but my parents wanted to be supportive so they gave him the blessing. I had doubts but everyone told me he was great (religious relatives) so I was like "ok, Iʻm crazy this is a good thing, I need to get on board"... DIVORCED.

2nd proposal, he didnʻt ask at all, didnʻt care to, did not give a hoot. My parents were like "well we support you, and we donʻt hate him, but we had no idea and if youʻre happy, we are behind you"... but after the first disaster, asking my parents was less important now so I was like "whoop Iʻm my own person I do what I want!"... but then he got abusive shortly after the proposal and I was like "NOPE, BYE FELIPE, NOT DOING THIS AGAIN!".

My parents and I had really open and honest conversations about all this that were very therapeutic

This one. Asking my parents, having them involved was super important to him and I thought it would be a nice touch of respect after everything that went down before. Well my dad dragged his feet! I was furious. After everything we had gone thru, the one guy I was SOOOOO sure about, heʻs dragging his feet??? The audacity!! I even at one point started freaking out that maybe I was crazy, he was stringing me along, he didnʻt actually want to get married, this was all for funsies, why buy the cow when you have the farm, right? blah blah blah. Well it turned out that my dad was just scared, scared of making the same mistake as before. So FH popped the question on a random date night unplanned in the kitchen with a beautiful rose gold ring and I said yes. It was like the weight lifted from everyone and they are beyond thrilled, we have an amazing relationship with them and I canʻt wait for him to take my last name and join our family