Lap dances at bachelor parties

Um....I dunno, my fiancé has zero interest interest in strippers. He told his friends that, not that they would have suggested it in the first place. If he's man enough to get matted, he's man enough to stand up for you and your wishes. And for himself.

^ I agree, if it makes you and especially him uncomfortable then his groomsmen need to respect that. I know it’s “tradition “ to go to strip clubs and do that stuff before the marriage but honestly if someone isn’t interested then stop pushing it.

Yes, if he’s not interested then it shouldn’t be happening. It’s a party in celebration of him. I honestly find it a odd “tradition”. My husband wants a chill day of just drinking whiskey and cigars. That’s it lol

My FH is not interested in that kind of thing AT ALL and never has been. He also doesn’t drink, so for his bachelor party he decided he wants to do something more fun like a laser tag, bowling, and chicken wings night. I’d be uncomfortable with the whole stripper thing too. They should be respectful of him if he’s just not into that stuff and they should be respectful of you if you’re not comfortable. He should try to make that as clear as possible.

Due to my past, strip clubs are an absolute no from me. I personally find the tradition to be derogatory. It is unsettling to think that a significant other needs to see another woman/man get naked. If that is the case, then they don't need me at home. Now my fh has been to them back in his younger days. The older he gets, the more he realizes that it is more of a juvenile activity and it isn't really acceptable in a committed relationship. However, every couple is different and some may not have a problem with this. You need to stand up for yourself and let it be known that this isn't okay. It will only cause anger and resentment. Even if your fh is pressured into it, it will cause some problems. You don't want this action in the back of your head on your wedding day. Nip it in the bud now rather than later.

I was pleased to find my FI had said flat out NO to a couple of brothers and friends D's from home who were planning a bar with strippers . He accepted the offer from more recent friends, most of whom do some activity, for him a friend with a family cottage with a pool table and card tables. FI and 1 buddy brought trailers with kayaks and canoes, since the small lake had a large river and brook access to a chain of ponds. Fri Eve to Sunday Eve, and a major gift of a folding poker table with felt, and free standing stands for snacks, drinks. A couple of his brothers and friends came up from NYC, but a few were miffed, big on drinking and strippers, and did not attend. But the hosts made everything free to attendees, and though only 8 stayed straight though, 16 total came, some spending one day and night only. If he had not stood up to the first bunch ( bar and strippers) , I would have lost respect for him. Saying something is against your values, then doing it because of peer pressure and heavy drinking, is not a sign someone has the maturity for marriage.

View Quoted Comment Thanks guys, we talked about it some more and we are on the same page. We are 26, so on the younger side and the first of our friends to get married. I feel like they think these kinds of things are supposed to be like what they see in the movies.

My fiance has never been interested in strip clubs and his cousin who is one of the groomsman was practically begging him to go. LOL my fiance was like cuz, you know me better than that. He dropped it from that moment on. I told my fiance he can do whatever else but strip clubs are just a plain no. But he was like babe, you don't have to tell me twice.

IMO only - your fiancé needs to adult up and tell his brother no strip clubs. It's that simple.