Hello!
This is my first time posting on here, I just wanted to get advice from people about this and see if I am being unfair or not.
My bachelorette party weekend is March 25th, we are going to Austin Texas for 4 days with my bridesmaids and a few close friends. My sister planned the whole thing - her and I spoke about a budget, we ran different locations by everyone a did a group vote, picked days ---then asked everyone overall budget what they would be comfortable spending per night at the airbnb/for events.
Furthermore, my sister planned 2 events (a boat ride, and a private chef dinner night) and asked everyone about cost beforehand. We were super upfront about everyone reaching out for comfort levels of cost, etc. We are mostly hanging at the pool and by the lake and so expenses shouldn't be crazy while we are there we are hoping.
While choosing the weekend for the bachelorette, a lot of us ended up rearranging original trip dates to accommodate one of my friends who has a difficult work schedule. She told us that she had a work event the first day of my bach but would fly in that evening and spend the remaining 3 days. We moved events to the other days so she could attend and she knew this.
18 days before the bachelorette, at my friends baby shower in the last 10 minutes she told me in person she couldn't make it work anymore. She said not to worry about the money.
I had checked in with my sister who did all the planning, had she told me this friend hasn't paid the second half of her air bnb ($187), as well as the $110 for the boat ride. She paid for the private chef, but she still owes $297.
My sister sent her a Venmo request for this amount. Is it ridiculous to ask her to pay it? She committed to the bachelorette well knowing overall costs and I personally don't think it is fair to make the rest of my group pay that cost. To top it all off, another best friend coming is pregnant but was super upfront from the beginning that she plans to attend unless there is any last minute issue with flying, but has been super transparent from the beginning.
We accounted for this a bit more, but if she doesn't come it will hurt group overall costs as well.
Is this unfair to ask? To top it all off the day before this event I just ordered everyones welcome bags with their initials etc with $40 worth of items each for them to have, and my sister told me the events we booked are nonrefundable (boat, airbnb and chef).
I think more it was that she knew she would have this event the entire time. I live in the camp of you made this commitment, but I am curious to hear other thoughts.
Thanks in advance -
Carly
