Last minute invites after covid planning.

I think if you explained that you had intended to invite them but initially did not because of Covid restrictions, they shouldn't be offended. I feel like people understand that you had to be mindful of these restrictions during planning.

I completely agree with Hannah. If I had a longtime friend reach out to me and explain the situation, I would not be offended at all. On the contrary, I would be excited the couple thought of me and invited me!

I think it would depend on how the relationship with my "old friend" has been maintained. For instance, I have a best friend who I have known since birth. We live on opposite sides of the country, but we still catch up on a monthly basis. I made sure she and her family were included in my guest list no matter what, and I think that if I were "B-listed" for her wedding, that would really hurt me. On the other hand, I can understand needing to limit the guest list for COVID reasons, as I had to do that for my own wedding. I would just be happy to get an invite at all.

I think my answer would depend on a few things. Are these people local? Have you maintained the friendship throughout covid?


I’d gladly go to a local wedding for someone I still talk to if I learned about it a month out, but I’d be put off by an invite that required me to travel or from someone I barely speak to.

I would do what you would want if your "old friend" was in the same boat, how would you feel getting a call to see about attending their wedding. Personally I would not be offended and would love to go if it all works out. Maybe also explain to them you need to soon fairly quickly as you have to get your final headcounts in. . .maybe get the confirmation via call/text but still send the formal invitation.

I received a last minute invite from one of my old sorority sisters whom I didn’t really talk to much after college but I was so thrilled she thought about me and I went to her wedding solo and had a blast! I knew some people there and chatted with others that sat at my table and it was great! I would say if you want to extend an invite, do it! You never know if they will actually show up and you’ll be so glad you did! If they can’t go, then no hard feelings. I’m sure they will love that you thought of them!