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Monique
Master December 2019

Last Name

Monique, on July 13, 2019 at 1:28 PM

Posted in Married Life 37

When you are married will you take your fs last name or will you be keeping your maiden name as part of your new name? What made you decide that? If you are already married what did you do? My situation is a little unique as my fh has two last names. His birth mom (who passed) and his adoptive dads...
When you are married will you take your fs last name or will you be keeping your maiden name as part of your new name? What made you decide that? If you are already married what did you do? My situation is a little unique as my fh has two last names. His birth mom (who passed) and his adoptive dads last name. I want to keep mine (I am Hispanic and want to keep that part of my name as it is part of my heritage) I decided to take his adoptive dads name because there are other men in his family who have his moms name. His adoptive dad has no biological children of his own. I think if I was not to take that name that it would be so rude to the man who raised my fh as his own and is in every right his dad. We can continue his name. My decision was something I struggled with for a while with what name to take.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I kept my last name aha because I didn't really like when we hyphenate it it sounds weird and I didn't like the idea of moving my last name as a middle name since I have one already and overall it just didn't flow better taking his last name. Especially because it's already so close to my last name in spelling
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  • Michelle
    Super August 2019
    Michelle ·
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    I will be taking my FH's last name. It's just always something I believed in, a married couple sharing the same name. His father also passed away a year before we met so we want to honor his name by keeping and sharing it.
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  • 8Bitbek
    Devoted October 2020
    8Bitbek ·
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    I am taking his name because I was bullied a lot growing up and won't miss it a single bit. Plus no one can pronounce it...

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  • D
    Super July 2020
    D ·
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    We had a difficult time with this as a couple. End result is she will be taking my last name. We're both women so there isn't historically a tradition in what to do but nothing much is traditional anymore, right?
    I'm the last of my last name in my family with the exception of my mother since my dad passed. No siblings either. Besides the fact the name would die with me I wanted me and my partner to have that connected bond of name sharing. We are a team, a clan, our own family.
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  • Bradya
    Dedicated July 2020
    Bradya ·
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    I am taking his last name cause my last name and his does not go together so hyphenating it is a no. Hill-Hayward/ Hayward-Hill

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  • Jennifer
    VIP October 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    I stand on tradition and ceremony. I will take FH name. Frye. My middle name will remain the same, I don’t want my maiden name as my middle name. I will be JEF, lol!
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I'm keeping mine. There are no men in my generation of my family, and I'm in my 30s, to boot.

    FMIL didn't changer her name (and, when she learned I was keeping mine, said, "good girl" in tones of deepest satisfaction), so FH didn't blink an eye.

    We're both in the entertainment industry. If one of us is lucky enough to hit it big, any kids we have can choose to go with the "known" name, or the "unknown" name, if so needed.

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  • Ellen
    Beginner February 2020
    Ellen ·
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    I'm keeping my own name. Not willing to change my name. I think names don't matter for successful relations.

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  • Cheryl
    Expert November 2020
    Cheryl ·
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    I'm taking FH's name, mostly because he wants me to. There are people on both sides to pass down names, so that isn't really a factor for us.
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    Super January 2020
    Cassie ·
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    Until I got engaged I just always thought I’d take my FHs last name because that’s what everyone around me has done. Now that I’m engaged and thinking about it I’m the last one in my family to carry on our name and it kind of makes me sad. I haven’t decided whether to take his last name or just add it. But if I have a hyphenated last name and he just has his last name what will my kids then have?
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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    That's so sweet! I plan on changing my name legally, but may keep my maiden name at work.

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  • Kristin
    Super November 2019
    Kristin ·
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    I am taking FH's last name. 1, my last name is long and no one can pronounce or spell it...I have been told by just about every UPS/FedEx guy I have ever talk to tell me "you better find someone with a shorter last name to marry". Beyond that, he is the only boy on his side, so no little boys to pass the name down through. My brother, on the other hand, has 3 little boys and I have countless cousins that I've never met (most of my dad's family is estranged) so that name isn't going anywhere, likewise, my mom's 2 brothers both have boys so her maiden name is still going strong as well. I always knew I wanted to share a last name with my FH, whether I change, he changed, or we both did.

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  • Cristina
    Devoted December 2021
    Cristina ·
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    I plan on taking his last name. Ive been married once before and didn't go back to my maiden name. I didn't feel it was necessary to spend a lot of money changing my name back when it was only a 2 letter change(first 2 letters).
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  • Destiera
    Devoted March 2020
    Destiera ·
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    I’m changing my last name. My currently last name has no meaning to me as it was my biological father’s last name who left my mom and I when I was a baby. My step-dad did not file to adopt me to change it because it’s so expensive. My mom hyphenated her last names when she married my step-dad though!
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  • Karla
    Savvy April 2019
    Karla ·
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    Same here! What did you decide?
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  • Kelsey
    Dedicated August 2019
    Kelsey ·
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    I decided to keep my middle name as-is and drop my maiden name. Kelsey MaidenName NewName didn’t flow as well as Kelsey MiddleName NewName. Plus our middle names are really similar which I think is cool haha
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  • MIWM
    VIP June 2019
    MIWM ·
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    I'm taking my husbands last name but I have thought about hyphenating it.

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