Hi all-
So as I have chronicled in past discussions, one of my cousin's was upset that I chose to schedule my wedding a month before hers and went so nuclear about it that her family and my family no longer speak. Well, now I have another problem. I just heard through the grapevine (because we don't do direct communication in my family) that another family member has chosen MY EXACT DATE to get married. They know it's my date, but they *need* to get married before they have their baby and it's the only date at their "dream" venue before the baby comes. Instead of telling me about this, they posted their date on Facebook and my sister texted me a screenshot.
So here's the thing: I want to say no, I know I should say no, etc. But I am fully expecting another full-fledged meltdown from my family that destroys months of my life and my family's lives again. And I just don't think I can do it. I had to go to therapy after the last one, following literally months of abuse from my cousin. I just don't think this will go any differently.
After this terrible year and all the drama, I'm just ready to elope. I've been crying for the past couple of hours and I'm just done.
Does anyone with a dysfunctional family have any advice?