Lazy or not motivated Bridal party?

My MOH is my sister as she is 1 of my best friends (#2 being my fiancée), she lives about an hour and a half away so we can't get together a lot, but we talk on the phone about the wedding and I email her ideas and such all the time for her opinion.

Bridesmaid #1 has taken off work to attend 2 bridal shows with me. And I'm sure she will do it again when I want to go to another one. I never demand her to do this though, I just ask her if she wants to come and she says "yes".

Bridesmaid #2 has done NOTHING. Actually, I don't speak her as much these days and the last 3 "plans" we made, she was a "no call-no show" so kinda upsetting.

Bridesmaid #3 is lives the farthest away so can't do too much, but will be here in August to visit so hope to get with her then. BUT she'll be down to help a day or two before wedding with stuff.

It's too early for me to have my shower or any other party, but we have discussed this before a little bit. Just not worried about it right now

Do you have an MOH or someone in charge of your bridal of your bridal shower, I think that person should be coordinating with them on certain things and you can coordinate with that person behind the scenes.

Also, did you lay out your expectations when you chose them to be in your party? Some BM really do not know of anything that they need to do unless the bride told them in advance.

@Kristina--For the most part all of my bridesmaids are less than an hour away and we have been friends since grade school, which is why it's so surprising that they're acting like this.
@Patricia - I have a matron and maid of honor. I thought my maid of honor would be more hands on, so I spoke to her about it(heart-to-heart talk) and she has been "a little" motivated but still just"very relaxed about everything." I had to tell her to take on a more active role because the rest of the girls are looking to her for guidance. I did talk to them in advance and told all what is customary of bridesmaids to assist with. I haven't even asked them to do anything really crazy. But we are now almost 3 months away and I shouldn't be pulling teeth about little things like finding shoes. :/ I'm giving them a lot of choices and. Maybe that was a bad idea.

Um yes. My sister. Originally, the plan was to have my bachelorette in Vegas. We (my sister, SIL and I) bought our plane tickets and I was left to book the hotel. Fine. Well, after essentially nobody else could make it out of the bridesmaids/friends (totally understandable) we decided to make it just a siblings trip. So my FH and brother are coming now too. The plan is to take one night just the girls and do the bachelorette thing. Over the weekend, I found this awesome penthouse at a great price. After making sure it was affordable for everyone, I booked it using my credit card (the total amount due in full) and sent out an email to the family saying, essentially, "Hey check out this sweet Penthouse! So excited to see you all, it's going to be great!" And...nothing. Like no response from anyone. I finally chatted up my sister today and the ONLY thing she has to say is she's glad it has a gym. No "Hey thanks for setting it up!" or "Can't wait!" Just - "Is there a gym?"

@ heather--I feel your pain! I don't understand why they can't be a little more understanding or involved. We are not asking for much. Maybe a little happiness and some movitation, that's it. I had the same issue with my bachelorette because 2 out of 6 can't go to MIAMI and 2 are up in the air. My maid of honor and matron made this really difficult in terms of booking the trip. I just thought that they were supposed to be here to support me during this process,not add stress -____-

I understand the traveling for a bachelorette party. It wasn't in the cards for most of my friends with flights being expensive as they are right now. But my family can fly to Vegas for cheap. And we've never done anything like this before together, so I was REALLY stoked.

My sister has a liking for a$$holes. I'm talking like the McDonald's drive-through guy who mooched off her for months. Then there was the verbally abusive dude. The latest one was a 41-year-old (she's 23) with three kids he never sees (and he was her boss). After they inevitably break up with her, she mopes for months and becomes very bitter. She even skipped her friend's bridal shower on Sunday. So, it's hurtful to think she can't be happy for me. Actually, chooses not to be.

@heather--Yup, the flight thing isn't affordable for everyone, that I got, but if they can't go, the least they could do is really get motivated and plan a local BP, so we can all have fun. Guess I shouldn't look forward to that. As for your Sister, YIKES! That sounds toxic and yes, it is hurtful to think that those you love, especially family, can't be happy for you. One thing is for sure, planning a wedding really lets you see who is really happy for you and who could care less.

I had 4, now down to 3. My best friend, another close friend and my future SIL. I had to drag 2/3 to get their dresses. My mom and I booked and paid for my own shower because every group text I send goes unanswered. I suggested Disney for Bach party and they all said “too expensive”, which is understandable...until one goes to Aruba AND California, one just booked Disney, and the other spent 4K on a snow blower & wood chipper. No one can seem to be bothered to check in, see if I need help with anything (NONE of them came with me to dress shop or see the venue)...and I’m supposed to have them stand by my side on the happiest day of my life? My fiancé’s groomsmen planned a WEEK LONG trip to Florida for him, he doesn’t have to pay for anything. One just texted me asking when my Bach party is because she’s planning a trip...so I said eff it I’m not having one. I’ll take myself to the spa and call it a day.