I love children. I ADORE CHILDREN.
But if you have children that you do not discipline, DON'T BRING THEM AROUND ME!!
FH and I are having a relatively child free wedding (no children outside of the wedding party)
Its a night wedding. Its formal. Find a babysitter. Have a drink. Get a hotel room and practice making the next baby!!
Our wedding is not YOUR family reunion. Nor should I be responsible for stopping your child from knocking over the cake.
I went to a wedding and saw a child lift up the brides dress and try to play hide and seek under it during the first dance!!
BTW this is not directed toward WW Brides who have children. I'm sure your babies are well behaved. FH has a cousin who does not discipline her children and even if it is clear they are not invited, would show up and throw them on the mercy of other people while she gets drunk.