Less than 2 weeks, and i want to kick everyone out of the wedding party

I know its super frustrating and disappointing that they aren't taking the same attitude to weddings as you did, but they are their own people. Not everyone has that kind of cash or desire to do all those things.

That their dresses don't fit isn't on you, but just let them know to take it to get altered if they're uncomfortable, otherwise you don't have a solution for them other than they can come as a guest instead.

It sucks, and some people aren't cut out for it, but don't forget these are supposed to be your nearest and dearest friends. So cut them some slack.

Is the main problem that their dresses don’t fit?

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Not just that, they complained about the venue is too far away so they don't want to attend the rehearsal which I cancelled. Next complain is they have to go to the venue early to get their hair and makeup done, and the bf can't go early so they need two cars, on and on.

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I understand, I don't want to break the friendships, but I am frustrated and want to vent.

View Quoted Comment That sucks I’m sorry you’re feeling like they aren’t there for you. I don’t think you should get rid of your bridal party as you could really regret it but maybe talk to the most reasonable one about helping.

I just can't imagine anything being a big enough blind burden or inconvenience for me as a BM to feel the need to address it with the bride. I'm with you -- I've never even had an opinion on someone's wedding I am in. I buy the dress (sometimes extremely expensive and not cute) and plan/do the pre-wedding things (sometimes also expensive and not very fun), and I show up when and where I'm expected to for the wedding, ready to celebrate all day long -- and I've never felt the need to whine about any of it to really anyone, especially the bride. But I've seen on WW that it's surprisingly a lot more common than I realized! Luckily, I think my bridal party must have fallen from Heaven LOL

I totally understand your frustration! But honestly, you're two weeks out -- keep the peace and just get to your wedding day! It's not even worth the extra stress, girlfriend!

View Quoted Comment Could the one with the boyfriend carpool with another bridesmaid that way they don't have to bring two different cars?

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I totally agree with MK on this! Especially as far as the day-of-the-wedding schedule is concerned, ummmm they need to suck it up. Try (as much as possible) to blow off some steam/stress.....go outside for some fresh air, listen to your favorite song and have a mini dance party, etc. Then you'll feel better! I'm sorry your bridal party is doing a whole lot of complaining....hopefully they will come through for you during the wedding weekend! Wishing you luck!!

It honestly sounds like you have maybe been a little too accommodating, and now they are taking advantage of that. You compromised on the bridal shower, bachelorette, and the rehearsal, and now it sound's like they are pushing their luck since they know you try to be accommodating. If it was me, I don't think I would have cancelled the rehearsal dinner, but that's just me. If they committed to be in the wedding, then they commit to all of it. Whether its a dress they don't like the fit or if its a little bit of a drive. I have been in weddings where I absolutely hated the dress, but I didn't say a word. Now I will say, I would look into it if ALL the dresses had an issue. Ex, If they all ran extremely small or different from the try on. Because then there might be a mistake on the stores end.

Also- and this is just my inner therapist coming out so I could be wrong- you sound super overwhelmed, kind of like you are doing a lot on your own. Don't be afraid to ask your bridesmaids for help and support. That's what they signed up for, and maybe if they realized how much was really on your plate they would quit adding things to it.

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Oh, I forgot to add that I live out of state and everyone else lives in FL, so I flew to FL for the bachelorette party. I am also paying for their hair and makeup, they only have to pay for an Azazie dress which some cost less than $100.

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. I agree with the girls above that it sounds like they’re taking advantage of your kind, accommodating nature. I would encourage them to get creative about carpooling and other alternatives, but also let them know that you hear what they’re saying - but you’re excited to have them join you on your special day and appreciate the effort they’re putting in to be there. A little reminder about the fact that they’re supposed to be there for you may go a long way.

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Totally agree with this.

While I think some brides way overdo the demands of their bridal party, nothing in this post is "overdoing" anything.

Their dresses not fitting isn't your problem. They need to take care of that themselves and should not be bothering you with it. They ordered their own dresses, so if they messed up the sizing, that's on them.

If they said something else to me about the venue being too far, I honestly would just put my foot down and politely but firmly say, "you knew where the wedding was going to be when you agreed to be a bridesmaid."

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Totally agree with Katelyn here. I have to be honest, when I read the title of this thread, I giggled because I felt it & it resonates. My FH has 4 sisters. FOUR. They are all going to be a bridesmaid. We also have 5 of their kids in our wedding. The different opinions, the complaints, the DRAMA. LOL I get it girl! 100%. I am super guilty of over accommodation from the start. I bent a LOT with their dresses & since then, they took it & ran with it.

So I finally decided to put my foot down but when I did, they'd call my FH & complain to him. Finally I had to find a balance. They all have very different personalities, styles, wants, needs. It's exhausting. I started to set boundaries & when I feel overwhelmed or when I am being bombarded with group texts, I tell them I am taking a break. Simply taking a break from anything wedding & then I would give them a timeline of when I would get back to all of their group text inquiries. *sigh* It is exhausting BUT the break helps SO much. It helps me breathe & get calm so that I can handle each of them with a level head and not in a heated moment.

I hope you are able to enjoy the rest of the road!