Let's talk about how to ask bridesmaid-to-be to be your bridedmaid

I'm also having two bridesmaids and no maid/matron of honour. I think you could just take them out to dinner and ask at the same time, and tell them that you love them equally so there's no separate names, and that they can decide between themselves who would like to organise the bachelorette party etc.

I would wait at least a year to ask anyone, since your wedding is still two years away. And when you are ready to ask, just ask each one individually without putting any pressure on them for what jobs you think come with the role. There aren't actually rules about attendants having to throw you parties. So, whoever doesn't like to or can't afford to plan parties, doesn't have to. And whoever loves throwing parties, can volunteer to do that.

I would wait to ask until early 2023. We've heard waaaay too many stories about people regretting asking too soon.

Your MOH doesn't have any special duties. She doesn't have to make speeches or host things. Ask whomever is closest and not for what they can do for you.

You can have everyone meet up for dinner and give it to them that way. A lot of my girl friends did that for when they asked their bridesmaids. For me, I went to my chosen bridesmaids houses individually as a surprise and to spend a little bit of quality time with them. I had three bridesmaids and one matron of honor who was my cousin, but was like a sister to me. I made cute proposal boxes for them which I mostly got from either Target or from Amazon.

I asked my girls about 10 months before the wedding (my original wedding date was pushed another month so it would've been 9 months). I know a lot of girls choose way too early here on the forum as they shared their experiences. But luckily my girls were AMAZING. I did not have one issue with them. So, everyone is definitely different.

I honestly didn't expect them to do much other than assist me on certain things that I possibly needed help putting together. They always kept checking up on me and see what needed to be done which was nice. When it got closer to the wedding date I definitely asked them if they could help me with some wedding stuff (party favors, center pieces, etc.) and they were able to come through to help me.

If you want your girls to definitely help you during this wedding process then ask them if its okay to ask for their help. It's still polite to ask especially when the girls have lives of their own whether it be work, school, family, etc.