Let’s talk food

I don't think there is anything in my area that isn't available - everything from poké bowls to pizza can be had at a wedding here.

In general, I just love unique offerings. I love beautiful displays of food, and I love small plates because I enjoy trying a lot of different things. I wish tapas style was more popular.

The only thing I can truly say I never wish to see ever again is a suckling pig. I saw this at a single wedding when I was a videographer and I straight up almost left over it, I was so utterly repulsed. I ended up not eating because this big roasted pig corpse immediately assaulted your field of vision if you walked into the buffet area and I refused to go in there. Absolutely freaking vile. If I was a guest at a wedding that had one, I would walk right out. Sorry, not sorry.

I've been to several weddings with pig roasts and it didn't bother me. I'm not a vegetarian, so I'm under no illusions about where my food comes from. Also, I know it's much more affordable than most other ways to feed a large group of people. And it's delicious. I didn't hear from anyone else that it bothered them either.

As someone with multiple food allergies I enjoy it when there's a variety so that there are things that I can actually eat.

This is such a fun question! I love a variety of different foods, so I always enjoy when a wedding has “stations”. We are doing a formal sit down dinner, but stations for our cocktail hour. Currently we have a cold seafood bar, Italian station which includes a pasta bar and a southern station. I also love when couples include their favorite foods. So for example, my favorite food is grilled cheese and has been since I was in preschool. It’s a well known fact 🤣, so we are having grilled cheese passed. I’ve also seen couples do a food truck or late night pizza and that’s also a huge hit!

I'm a super picky eater, so there's a lot I can skip.

That said, if you have a good side dish of potatoes, they make EVERYONE happy.

Anything with mushrooms is inedible to me.

In addition, I'm sensitive to very sweet things, so I only nibble at non-chocolate cakes, if at all, because they tend to spike my blood sugar in a bad way.

I’m personally pro plated dinners where they choose on the RSVP cards. We did an option between filet mignon and crab cake and people seemed pleased with those options. Personally, I love the fish/seafood option when we go to weddings, because usually it’s only steak or chicken.

I'm not really picky about what's on the menu but I do like buffet style as opposed to plated. I like being able to select my food and go back for seconds if I'm still hungry.

I get excited if there’s a beef dish on the menu: filet mignon or other steak, braised beef, prime rib station. 😋


I wouldn’t be a fan of food I’d have to eat with my hands at a wedding—burgers, pizza, BBQ. I love the fancy food settings you see in magazines like a mashed potato martini bar, but I’ve yet to see one at a wedding (in the past 15 years I’ve only been to 1 wedding besides my own though).

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The post asked for opinions on what we liked/didn't like, so I answered. I haven't argued against anyone else's opinion, despite disagreeing with several.

Glad it didn't bother you. It definitely did me, and I maintain that opinion: it was repulsive, and I would never want to see it again, since that was the question that was asked - "what would you never want to see on a menu again," not "what's your argument against what other people state they don't like in this thread".

I'm not a fan of messy, dripping foods at weddings. I went to a wedding with build your own tacos and while delicious, it was not something I enjoyed eating while wearing a fancy dress. In general, I prefer to use utensils for meals at weddings and not have to eat with my hands for the main meal (finger foods, two bite canapés are fine for cocktail hour, donuts for dessert are fine).

I always love when food is local and/or tied to the area or culture. Seafood for a beach wedding, locally grown produce for a farm wedding, etc.

I'm the person who looks forward to cake!!!!! The past two weddings I've been to have had barbecue, which there's nothing wrong with that! I just like to see something different! We're doing a pasta buffet:

1. Penne alfredo with grilled chicken

2. Classic Lasagna

3. Spinach Lasagna

4. Vegan/GF Past with mixed veggies and balsamic white-wine sauce

So in asian culture, we do 8-10 courses of food and it's so good but if you aren't a seafood person then you probably won't be as into it haha. but i LOVE it because it is so much more exciting compared to only getting one entree.

I've had good (and not so good) food in both buffet and plated formats, so I don't really have a preference for one or the other. It all depends on how good the caterer and the planning are.

Like many others, I don't want to eat with my hands or have messy food if I am dressed up. I think the food should match the formality of the wedding; casual food at a casual wedding is absolutely fine.

That said, I would be very, very disappointed to be served fast food at a wedding. I have never encountered it, but I have seen that discussed a lot here.

We are doing a pasta bar!!

We are thinking: Penne, fettuccine, and maybe elbow? Alfredo sauce, vodka sauce, and pesto! Chicken, cut up steak, and meatballs and cheesy breads. Lots of extra (Parmesan, basil), and two salad to chose from (thinking a sweet balsamic and a Cesar!)

We love pasta so I love seeing pasta at weddings!

I love pig roasts, our high school had one every year to celebrate the end of school! I think my favorite unique thing at a wedding was elk backstraps marinated in red wine and grilled to perfection! It was a small wedding so they used all the elk they had harvested themselves I really dislike naked cakes, every time I see them I just think "oh jez, gonna be a dry cake". Our bakery would not do naked cakes because you don't know how long the cake will sit out before being served. They tend to be dry and I would rather scrap off excess icing versus a cake being too dry.

For me, I honestly hope to never again go to a wedding that features Santa Maria style BBQ. I know that's a pipe dream for me, though. I live about 20min away from Santa Maria, so it's painfully common here. It's not bad food, but if you don't like or can't eat tri tip then you're stuck with just eating sides. And when that's a menu you have to deal with multiple times per year (weddings, birthdays, company lunches, church gatherings, etc.) it's just way too much.

I've gone to a couple of weddings that did taco bars and I like them if they're done well. One that I went to didn't have any sort of vegetarian option (the tacos just had meat, cilantro, and onions) and the salsa provided by the restaurant was so spicy that most guests couldn't handle it and I wasn't the only person to almost throw up because it was just too much. Another one that I went to was primarily a build-your-own taco thing, but you could also do a burrito or quesadilla and there were a TON of topping options. That one was super awesome.

As far as how you get the food, I much prefer buffet or some way of choosing how much of what you have on your own plate as opposed to plated dinners. Plated dinners often have way more food than I can handle and I feel absolutely horrible about wasting the food. It's also super awkward to sit there with what looks like a barely-touched plate of food when everyone else at your table has finished and had their plates taken away. Granted, I'm likely more sensitive to stuff like this than most as I was anorexic in high school.

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Despite you taking my opinion extremely personally, I was just pointing out that not everyone feels that way. If you really wanted me to "argue against" what you stated on this thread I could've pointed out how absolutely rude it would be to walk out of someone's wedding just because you find the food they're serving distasteful.

I always love seeing a good fish on the menu, my favorite is stuffed shrimp or baked stuffed sole. I also LOVE a good app at cocktail hour. We are having little french onion soup cups and I'm so excited for them. We've been to a wedding where they did chicken and waffles and it was so good.

One thing I'd be glad to never see again...and this was a LONG time ago and I'm not totally sure what happened at this wedding...but they served cold salmon and cold chicken. Not just like been sitting around and was no longer hot, I'm talking sitting in the fridge and then pulled out and served cold. It was so awful. Nobody ate any of it!

The favorite foods sound great and I empathize with the dislikes.


Out of curiosity because I just now thought of it, how is food eaten with hands at the main meal different in a negative view from the cocktail hour which is dubbed as the best part of the reception by so many people? It’s just a much larger portion, but I completely understand why it wouldn’t work or make sense in certain settings. Not that one is better or worse than the other.