When did you all move in together? Was it a big deal? Was the transition hard?
DH and I took a lot longer to move in together than I wanted, but there was good reason for that. As I mentioned in one of the other threads, I'm 6 years older than DH. He grew up in Manhattan, so he actually hadn't even moved out of his parents' apartment when we met. Too dang expensive!
He didn't want to move in with me without living on his own first, and I agreed with this (though I didn't *like* it). But the rental market in NYC is brutal, and it took a long time before he could manage the money and the right roommates and the right place.
Meanwhile, I went and bought a condo (with help from my dad), because I got *tired* of subletting a room and having roommates. (Also, Hurricane Sandy killed my car and nearly wiped out my apartment, so... yeah, had to get out of there.)
So, he finally moved out of his parents' place after we'd been together almost 3 years. Of course, I also had to bite my tongue over a lot of DH's choices! I would never have chosen the roommates he did (there was Drama, again and again, and I totally saw it all coming), nor the apartment they did (basement = vermin EW), but he was ok with it.
He stayed there a year and a half or so, and moved in with me shortly after our 4th anniversary. (I bought the condo in Jersey. He complains, but he's the one who fell in love with a Jersey Girl, so... that's a Him Problem.)
It was kind of a big deal? I mean, I'd been alone for a while, but he also had a key to my place. So, for me, it was weird to have someone in my space. But he's ALWAYS had people in his space, so I think for him, it was weird for it to only be *one* other person, and a lot quieter. (We've had to negotiate sound levels. Still do.) But it also felt right, and my sleep habits improved and so did my eating habits. Mostly, I just liked seeing his face every day.
The owning part is rough, though. We have to replace our windows. That is NOT cheap, even when you only have a handful!
