Let's Talk Regrets

My regret is venue and partially my dress, still not in love with it and so far I've changed my viel and head piece but can't change the dress so I'm hoping spending money on alterations to make it into a dress I love will change my mind.
Venue is my biggest regret, chose it bc it was the most affordable

We (mainly me) sent the save-the-dates WAY too early. We originally sat down and made the original list. But, once word spread, people who we "forgot" came out the woodworks! Ugh! So now the guest list is much longer than I am comfortable with, and pushing the limit for the venue. Just crossing my fingers some people decline (bad...I know lol).

Mine is not having my mom help plan more, as she is super busy herself and we couldn’t find times that would work for both of us to get together more than we did. I did however tell her my thoughts and get her advise on things. Also, super silly, but I regret having a square cake rather than the normal round one. It’s been super difficult to find a cake stand that I love for a square cake, so I had to come up with something myself. And I still don’t love what I have.

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OMG THIS! We're still 1.5 years out and I'm already regretting talking to some people about our plans...mainly my brother's GF, I am so tired of hearing about their "wedding plans" and how she thinks I'm being bridezilla (I got this for saying that I'm happy that we can decorate the night before so that I can make sure everything is going together how I want...) but it's hard not to talk around her because most of the time when I'm around my sister (who is a bridesmaid) and my mom, she's there. At Christmas my older sister finally snapped at her, she has to be the loudest person in the room and dominate all conversations so when Mom, sis and I were trying to talk about plans and GF kept taking over the convo with what she plans on doing or thinks is stupid about my plans, older sis looked at her and just said " Wow I didn't know you guys were engaged! Last time I checked we weren't talking about YOUR wedding!" gotta love it...sigh

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Way to go older sis!

Sometimes we just have to give people reality checks. A few moments ago I had to give my mom one when it comes to social media and texting. My FH and I want to be the first one's to share images of our celebrations (wedding, reception, etc.) So I had to have the hard conversation with her on, "No, you can't post on social media or send pictures via text to family and friends." It's kind of crazy that I even have to say anything, but I told the same thing to everyone else, too. (Only 8 guests including us). We want to share our memories first, and we want to wait until after our professional photos are in.

Only 3 days away, and I'm so exhausted I can't even really say why, and the anxiety from thinking of any drama is overwhelming. I haven't been able to concentrate enough to even exercise and my work brain is all foggy.

Having too many family friends... lol

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I am struggling with this too! Most of my family and friends are in WI and my future husband and I live in NC. We are hoping most of my immediate family and some of my closer friends are able to come to our wedding ceremony/reception in NC. We are trying to plan a time next year where we can go to WI to celebrate with more of my WI folks.

Regrets you say? I've got plenty.

1. The date. I did not want to get married in the summer yet, married in August.
2. The guest list. Should have been more selective.
3. My dress. I had to settle for my 5th choice.
4. The venue. I can't even say how much I regret the venue.
5. Not having the ceremony and reception at the same place. People got lost.
6. Not giving myself enough time to plan properly. I had four months.
7. Not having a proper photographer.
8. Missing the first dance because I don't know how to dance.
9. Not getting a proper toast because some people had their own agenda.
10. Letting my mom go crazy with my bouquet. Think Princess Diana kind of big.
11. The cake. I thought I could do this myself. I was wrong. I did a cake for us to cut then cupcakes for everyone else. After transporting 72 cupcakes 20 miles in the South Carolina heat, I never want to see another cupcake again. Buttercream does not hold up so well under those conditions.

View Quoted Comment I’m in the same boat- I keep on thinking of the amazing vacations we could have gone on with the money spent on the wedding

Don't have any yet. But glad I read some of the comments here. My husband (we are doing a vow renewal next year as we never had a wedding) wants to stuck to a very small guest list - closest fam and friends and no plus 1s unless engaged or live together or married. I struggle w this but every person who attends...let's just say adds up fast. So I will be more relaxed about sticking to as short of a list as possible
Another thing my best friend told me. She said she regrets taking on as much as she did when planning and also working as much as she did leading up to the wedding. She's a personal trainer and she worked into the night the night before the big day. She said she hated how she looked not because of dress or hair but because she was sooooo exhausted w dark circles under her eyes and just utterly drained. I am definitely sticking to a few days off leadinf to and some spa treatments haha