lgbt Bridal shower

Unless you have very different sets of friends that would come, I would do a couples shower for both of you together! That way your friends and family don’t have to plan two separate days and buy two separate gifts. I’d hate for one of you to get gifts and the other one to not even though the gifts are for the couple together. If you don’t want a shower however, you could skip yours and just let her have one. Maybe come in at the last hour or two like a “typical groom” would do to make an appearance and say hello to your friends and loved ones! But personally, if you both are doing a shower, I would do one together.
You could also do a luncheon with just a few of your loved ones and let her to a bridal shower

Hi Montana! There are no set rules here, you can do whatever kind of shower you want to have, or no shower at all. If your bride wants to have her own shower with just her friends I think that's fine, and maybe instead of a full shower you might prefer to have a more low-key lunch or picnic or spa session with just a few of your friends, so you're still getting your own event but it's more your style and comfort level. Would your partner be upset if you didn't have a shower of your own?

View Quoted Comment Most likely yes. However I do like the idea of having just a lunch or a spa day. So maybe she will be okay with that. She’s really into the whole “traditional” thing and thinks if we have a combined shower it’ll take away from it being a shower for her being a bride which I understand. And that’s fine because I really don’t want a shower. The whole idea makes me cringe.

View Quoted Comment We honestly don’t. But we do have two very different sets of family lol. She has a huge family that would definitely want to be there and I have a smaller family. We are also from two different states so half of my friends/family wouldn’t even be able to attend.

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Then if she wants a big traditional shower and you like a low key party, it sounds like separate events, maybe even on the same day, would be a good compromise!