Life

That's a good thing. Relax, and plan the whole thing patiently...

While it's understandable to be bummed, remember this:

The goal is staying married, not getting married.

Getting married is easy. Anyone age 18 or over with about $100 can do it in 20 minutes at the local courthouse. There is no screening, there is no prerequisite of relationship skills, it requires no fortitude or even forethought.

Staying married, however, requires all of that and more. It requires good communication, compassion and understanding, solidarity, and humility. No matter how much and how truly you love another person, being with another person - and they with you - is hard work. And it's much harder if you aren't on solid ground to begin with. Houses crumble on weak foundations. They may stand fine at first, but they always eventually start sinking into the ground.

Feel what you need to feel - disappointment, sadness - but ultimately you will be glad that you waited and worked to make that foundation solid first. And working toward that together, as it sounds like you are doing, is special on its own (even if it doesn't feel like it).

All of this! While it's totally okay and understandable to be sad, you guys made the right decision to work on your foundation first before committing to each other for life. When you're in a better place you'll be able to look back at this and appreciate how far you've come. Good luck to you both!