Limited Alcohol Receptions / Dry weddings (UPDATED)

QueSeraSear...who is making fun of peoples religions?

You asked if people would attend a "super conservative Christian wedding". You brought religion in to this. I simply stated that I would NOT attend such a wedding.

I am merely poking fun at dry weddings.

MrsWrs, then it would help if OP would put UPDATE in her title. She is going to continue to get responses that she doesn't want, until she does.

She updated her original comment.

MrsWrs - I said that twice now and people kept responding to the original post so... clearly they didn't read my comments either.

Mrs Wrs and QuesSera

"Regardless, people should always read the comments before posting."

So, from what you re saying....a poster must read EVERY response before posting? WTF?

PS...OP has NOT updated her post. Perhaps she changed her mid in a post, but she has not modified her original post, which would save her a lot of grief.

@Kathy - I did modify my original post? Regardless, I modified it again to include the world UPDATE in the title.

@Melissa - Of course I would provide non alcoholic drinks - I specifically threw in ideas like mocktails, ginger ale, sparkling grape juice, soft drinks, maybe our favorite juices (that's new) etc. People need to drink something haha. I'm sorry if this got confusing but basically my original idea was to provide complementary non alcoholic drinks and then offer a cash option IF you wanted to 'upgrade' to an alcoholic beverage instead. Sort of like an airline. And although it may sound like an excuse, literally my entire family (and his entire family) doesn't drink alcohol. It's a cultural/religious thing. Hence, I only mentioned the cost part because originally it didn't make sense to me to spend money on something (meaning cut budget on something else) that the vast majority of people wouldn't be consuming.

I know this is a controversy topic but if you don't drink for religious/cultural reasons you are under NO obligation to serve it at your wedding. It doesn't make you a bad host at all- it's your culture and religion. You can't accommodate the culture of everyone coming to your wedding.

And please don't listen to how people down dry weddings. They are just as fun and nice.

Is having a bar tab an option?

@Hannah&Orlando - Thank you so much for your kind words I think maybe the cultural element might be throwing some people off. I maybe should have stressed more that this would be an Indian wedding with 2 families who do not consume alcohol and the majority of guests would be relatives and family friends who are used to this. It's just some non-Indian friends/colleagues that I was wondering about.

@Natalie - Awesome idea! So how would a bar tab work exactly? Like certain people go and open a tab, and then later we cover their tabs? Do we let the venue know ahead of time who these people will be? Just checking to make sure I get how it works.

@Akshali, thank you for adding UPDATE to your thread. You may want to list something in the original post. It still reads as if you having a dry wedding.

People are not going to read through all posts to fid out that you have changed your mind. I still have not found a post where you changed this.

@Ashali- you just pay the bar bill at the end of the night. You're only paying for what people have drunk alcohol wise, not paying per head for everyone to have 5 hours on unlimited alcohol, which considering your guests being mostly tee totalers, would be a waste of money,

@Akshali, just let the venue know you'll be covering the tab for any alcoholic drinks plus tip. It's called a "consumption bar". Lots of people have recommended it here on this thread.

@Kathy - I actually went ahead and rewrote the entire original post. Hopefully this makes it more clear. Thanks for pointing that out.

@Natalie: Yes, my point exactly! this sounds like a good idea. Thanks!

@Jacks: Yup, thank you!

More bad news, Akshali, editing the original actually makes it more confusing for everyone. No big deal, but yeah... No-one reading now will know what everyone's responding to.

@jacks - ahhh sorry I'm relatively new to WW and haven't posted in a while :/ Oh well, I'm going to sleep...hopefully this won't be too confusing for everyone. I wish I could just close threads...

I'm a little confused...The hundreds of family members will be offended if alcohol is served, which is the reason you continue to cite for not hosting an open bar. Then, you say you're willing to offer it as "an upgrade", for charge, for those so inclined. So, how does that eradicate the presence of alcohol at your wedding, and wouldn't the optics be entirely the same without the upgrade charge? Alcohol will still be there, and guests will still be consuming it in front of the offended. Is their problem more about you paying for your guests' alcohol?

Bar tab, consumption bar -- either/or, just please...no cash bar. And honestly, how that alcohol, something you're willing to make available, is paid for is not the family's business. You've already deferred to their sensibilities in a major way, and that should be more than enough.

I can't even read the whole thread all the way it makes me flabbergasted .. I am very close to an Indian family and yes weddings are a big deal in the culture.... op I'm sure you have been to a wedding of your culture sooooo........ You know what the bar entails.

The last wedding I went to was a cash bar wedding. This was before I was on WW. And everyone there drank (for the most part). I don't think I had less fun. It was annoying bc I had to stop at the ATM