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Erika
Just Said Yes May 2021

Limited Guest Count and Save the dates??

Erika, on October 11, 2020 at 1:50 PM Posted in Planning 0 6
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Due to the pandemic my venue has cut their max capacity from 200 to 50 people in the indoor reception area. My fiance and I had 165 on our guest list. They are hoping before May (when my wedding is) they can up that to 100 guests, but that's dependent on a few factors. I asked about pushing the wedding back but they're booked pretty much until 2023. I have 2 questions :


1. Would you look to postpone or change the location of your wedding based on maybe not being able to invite everyone? If we move to an outdoor venue then we would be allowed 100..but we've already changed locations once so I'm torn.

2. How the heck do we send save the dates if we keep it here? Just send to 50 and then if it gets upped we give everyone 8 weeks notice with an invite? Or send to all and then if the count stays at 50 we have to uninvited people?
Thanks so much for your help, planning in a pandemic is rough!

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Latest activity by Kimberly, on October 11, 2020 at 11:02 PM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I would do the 2nd option, especially since you will probably lose money on option 1. Save the dates aren't a necessity and really only became a thing in the last few years.
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    My big wedding is in March 2021. We sent the save the dates to everyone who is invited, if we have to cut our guest list before March we will do so. But anything can between now and then so I've planned as normal!
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    Super October 2022
    Michele ·
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    Postponing vs keeping the date is something only you can decide. Don't send save the dates until you have the guestlist set in stone, be it a small group or large.


    The etiquette pros (Miss Manners and Emily Post) say that if you have already sent out save the dates and need to scale back then you need to cancel your existing wedding with proper notice to everyone and send out all new invites as a new event with updated info.
    Just follow the age-old etiquette which is more important now than ever and you can't go wrong.
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    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    I would send Save the Dates to the smaller guest list. And then obviously if capacity limits are raised you can send out more invitations. I think that’s easier than having to uninvite people.
    I also wouldn’t postpone the wedding, but that’s just me. I was just ready to be married. and with this pandemic anything can happen and I’d rather be married should anything happen/either of you gets sick.
    Good luck with whatever you choose
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  • KiwiDerbyBride
    VIP May 2015
    KiwiDerbyBride ·
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    I’d send save the dates to your VIPs, up to a maximum of 50 people. Then if permitted numbers are increased, invite more people. Save the dates don’t have to go to everyone you’re planning on inviting, they’re a relatively new thing anyway and you’re much better to send fewer, rather than have to uninvite people, which is extremely rude.

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  • Kimberly
    Super March 2021
    Kimberly ·
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    I personally wouldn’t postpone, I’d want to go ahead and marry the love of my life.
    Just send save the dates to the 50 you know you’ll be able to include and then hopefully the minimum will be increased and you can add more to the guest list when invitations go out.
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