Literally Speechless

Don't let it bother you. Some people don't know how to act. Out of spite (but I am petty) I would text and just say lovely card and thanks. Happy Holidays.

Yiiiiikes.

I just cringed reading that! I can't believe they would outright ask for money

I would literally mail her a penny taped to her own card with congratulations written in Sharpie across it.

Wow!! I don’t even know what to say. You have two choices...1) acknowledge it or 2) don’t and keep things estranged BUT either way I would not send anything!! It’s rude to even ask. I would like just ignore it.

View Quoted Comment I probably won't. She is the one who has choose to ignore all of us.

The good thing is that she sent nothing to you, you only saw it incidentally, so you can completely ignore it. Just do whatever you would or would not do if she were marrying under any circumstances. Act like family. Picking apart her manners ( admittedly poor manners) is the last thing that would be on my mind. Get her a gift, to start her marriage. Not money .

View Quoted Comment Smart choice!

View Quoted Comment She sent the card to us. I would have no problem treating her like family if she didn't want to tell us how much she hates us. She is the one that has decided she doesn't want to be a part of our family anymore.

Money is preferred over your love and support. Nice. That would be a hard no. I think I would take Sherry's suggestion and send a card with a penny in it. That way, she knows you got the card and her ignorant hint, and are acknowledging her with a penny.

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OMG YES. The petty side of me would do this too haha.

But yeah I remember your previous posts, your sister is crazy for thinking any of this is okay!

View Quoted Comment My parents got theirs as well and my mom thinks that our family extended family is going to think they raised my sister to badly because of how rude she is being by asking for money. She sent these cards to like all of our extended family. My parents are so embarrassed that she would do something like this.

I wouldn't say anything. thank her for the christmas card, congratulate her on her wedding and thats it.

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I can definitely understand your parents embarrassment. but if she is estranged from most of the family they hopefully will know that your parents didn't raise her to do that. she is obviously her own person.

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I can be a real Petty Betty so yeah I would be on board with with idea!!!

Yup, I have to agree with Catherine, say congrats and go about your day. I had something similar happen only it was a close friend not a family member and it was a baby shower. I really just don't know what people are thinking sometimes.

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Your parents sound like phenomenal people from what I've read! I'm sure your extended family knows that every batch has one bad apple!