Little sister got engaged

I don't see the issue... You should be laughing not angry. It's funny when one is so adamant avout "beating" you at something that shouldn't even be a competition

Personally, I would feel the complete opposite! I would be happy that she’s having her wedding first. That means once her wedding is done and over with, you will still have the excitement for yours!

View Quoted Comment I’m not angry about it. I’m totally happy for her. She truly deserves happiness after what she has been through. She bothers me that her fiancé would always say they would get married before me. I guess I should just let it go and help with the planning since mine is all done now just waiting for the date lol

View Quoted Comment I didn’t even think of it this way ! Okay that makes me feel so much better ! Thanks girl

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. It's not a competition. Some people don't like stretching out an engagement and that is perfectly ok.

She’s doing absolutely nothing wrong. You get one wedding day, not an entire year. I would work on moving past this.

I'm not trying to be harsh, but it is really none of your business when and why she picked to get married when she did. It is 100% her and her fiancé's decision. Also, not everyone wants a long engagement. I certainly didn't. My husband and I got married within eleven months and we had no issue planning in less than a year. I honestly had a lot of it planned within the first two months. My brother, who is 6 years younger than me, got married four months before me and it didn't bother me one bit. I think you need to let it go because you are putting way too much energy into someone else's wedding and if you don't let it go I would worry it could come between you and your sister.

View Quoted Comment You bet! Plus, your wedding will likely be more enjoyable for guests, since there is a much better chance that things will be back to “normal” in 2022!

View Quoted Comment Yea I totally get that. Again I’m so happy for her since she has been through hell with past exes and this guy really is so good to her

View Quoted Comment I never said she was doing anything wrong. Simply said what her fiancé was saying over and over again to me while they were dating bothered me. I’m extremely happy for her and truly can’t wait to see her enjoy her day

View Quoted Comment Yeah I agree. Not sure why her fiance turned it into a competition

I don't think a year-long engagement is a rush; that's pretty standard as far as planning a wedding goes (I know several people who got married in 6-8 months). 2 years is on the long side for an engagement; when you do that, sometimes people will go ahead of you. She would have had to wait 2 years if she waited until yours was over, and that's too long for a lot of people.

I can see how his comments might rub you wrong, but there really isn’t anything wrong in wanting a shorter engagement. If she wants to get married in 2021 and is able to do so, then there truly isn’t a problem at hand.
Hope everything works out ❤️

I get where you’re coming from. From what you’re saying, it sounds like she’s had her heart set on getting married before you for a while now LOL. I understand that you’re happy for her and that you’re not upset about it unlike other pps on this thread that just don’t seem to get it haha, but I also understand where your need to vent comes from. And who knows, maybe deep down you might feel like she’s trying to steal a little bit of your thunder too. And for all I know she probably might be haha. But, I have to say as a bride who signed my contract like a week before Covid happened, I can’t imagine why anyone would willingly choose to sign a contract to have a wedding in 2021. It’s just kind of a bad idea. And yes I get it as other PPS so bluntly have mentioned, “Anyone can pick whatever day they want “and “you only get one day “ but I think it might have a lot to do with the fact that you have to share parents with this person lol, and initially the focus was on your wedding and you might even feel like you may have to put yourself aside a bit because “well your sister is getting married too” kinda thing. The wedding day focus is no longer just on you. It’s now something you have to share with your sister. I may be completely off here on what you’re feeling, but your feelings are valid regardless. Good luck and vent anytime you need to!

View Quoted Comment You hit it on the T perfectly ! Thank you so much for understanding !

View Quoted Comment ♥️ I’m glad I could help! And just think, her wedding is before yours, so that gives you plenty of time to out-top her wedding and rub it right in her fiancé’s face! LMAO just kidding, OK now I’m getting devious here. but in all seriousness you are much smarter for having your wedding in 2022. Plan BIG Bride!

I don't see the problem she got engaged and is planning a year in 2021 and you get 2022 ignore her fiancé, My cousin got engaged 3 weeks after me and she is getting married 2 months before me she is a very immature person and was trying to get under my skin but I just rolled my eyes and kept on moving forward wedding planning

Totally get where you are coming from and needing to vent. I would say it’s a good thing the planning for yours is complete done and you don’t have to listen to so and so is doing it this way you should too and whatnot.

I can see your point. However, look at it this way- when you see how she’s putting her’s together, you’ll see what works & what doesn’t. Use that info for your wedding.

I completely understand what you mean, and it sounds like she's trying to subtly rub it in your face a little bit. Who constantly tells someone they're going to get married before them?

It's funny how these things work out though - DH and I had been dating for 3 years before we got engaged in 2018, and planned our wedding for 2 years later.

One of my closest friends met her now-husband after I was engaged, and she got married last year. Didn't see that one coming! But I was so happy for her. Granted, it was also never a competition, and neither of us had ever made any comments like "I'm going to get married first!" I actually told her how awesome it was that she was getting married before me, since she had been waiting a long time for the right person.

But I agree with Chrysta -- at least hers will be over and then you can look forward to yours!