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Before moving in with my fiancé, I typically went out with friends 3-5 nights per week. Since I moved in with him right at the beginning of the pandemic, we haven’t really established what our social life will be like since we have been quarantining the whole time LOL He is a very social person, but in different ways. I like going out to shops, restaurants, bars, etc with my friends, where his idea of fun social time is working on a car with his buddies or going camping. I think once the social distancing stuff is over, we will have to strike a balance with our social lives. He will need time alone with his friends doing what they think is fun, and vice versa. It works out pretty easily for me though, because he has his child every other weekend, so I can easily go out with my friends those weekends and he will have the opportunity to spend quality father-son time together. Luckily, we have several couples friends here that we can spend social time together with also. My best friends in the world are back in St. Louis (about a 5 hr drive), so we have both agreed that once it is safe to travel again, I will spend a weekend with my friends in St. Louis every other month.

View Quoted Comment Every other month! Thats a nice compromise.

View Quoted Comment I think so too. We have definitely been great about communicating our wants and needs in the relationship and reconciling them prior to moving in together. I highly recommend you and your fiancé thinking about what is most important to you, how your daily lives, housekeeping standards, expectations of social lives, etc. are different from one another and how you can come together or compromise to make sure both person’s needs are met. Setting clear expectations and coming up with a plan prior to moving in together could definitely help make that transition a lot smoother!

With my last relationship i learned that i was putting all my time with my boyfriend and i literally never did anything outside of him. so when i met my husband i made it a thing to be mindful that there are many aspects of me and my life beyond who my spouse is. so i make sure to keep in touch with friends and to find organizations or things to be a part of that are for myself.

View Quoted Comment Learning from past experiences is always good!

We're actually both introverts, me so more than him.

However, our social circle is a lot of married couples and some of them have young kids. Being in theatre, we (used) to take a lot of time to go to shows and see people that way, and working on shows was also pretty social. Because our circle is so connected, though, we (used to) see people at least once a month socially...

Obviously, we've barely seen anyone since March. We've done some outdoor meetups, but only a few, and it's really hard, even for introverts.

We’re both introverted and prefer spending weekends together since we don’t get a ton of time just for us during the week. Between work and grad classes, weekdays are busy! We haven’t really seen anyone since March due to the pandemic, but it hasn’t bothered either of us at all.

View Quoted Comment Okay thanks for sharing your perspective

I think it depends on each couple, our 1st year of marriage my husband and I worked opposite hours of the days, me mornings and him nights. The only day we had free together we'd usually just spend it together. Now that we are on our 2nd year of marriage we have taken to being more social, our schedules are in sync now and we have weekends off together so we try and add something whether it be friends or family or both. Of course with Covid this hasn't been as easy but we are careful of who we see and how we see eachother. My best friend and her hubby both work remotely from home but my husband and I have to leave to our work places every day, so we're cautious! Socializing has helped us communicate better, have open communication together and with others, be open to ask for advice and so much more.

View Quoted Comment Okay, thank you for sharing, Alejandra. Marriage is wirk but it's sure worth it.