Living Together While Engaged?

We are waiting until we are married to live together. As a few others have stated we view the marriage as the start of our lives together, so that is why we are waiting. I don't feel like we don't know each other that well because we talk about the sorts of things that you will encounter when you begin living together and we don't hide our quirks and annoyances from each other. When he is around I live my life the way I do when he is not around and vice versa. That said, we both can not wait till the next 3.5 months are over so that we can finally begin our lives together as husband and wife and no longer have so much distance between us!

My FH and I have lived together for 5 years--with some long distance stuff in there in between. Sex aside, I personally think that it's important to live with someone before getting married. In saying that though, I don't think that you should live with someone before getting married because you want to "test drive" the relationship or you want to see if things will work out--that is sure to fail and not end up good. You may feel trapped and extremely unhappy if you can't "work" together. If you move in together because you love each other and you actually want to live together and think it will work--I think it's a great idea. My FH and I moved in together because we wanted to and because it made sense for us. And, for the most part, we do great together. We have a few kinks that we are working on straightening out and all that, but we still want to be together and love each other very much.

And, I didn't read any other responses so I'm sorry if I'm repeating anyone else!!

I think this is a decision that only you and your FH can make. I have been living with my FH for a few years and it gave me a chance to learn him.(and for him to learn me)I believe it when they say that you learn more about a person when you live with them. Atleast I hope I know all there is to know.(bad habits that is) I always said that I would wait until I'm married but things don't always turn out the way we plan.

NotFroofy and I lived together for eight years before there was ANY legal way for us to get married. As soon as there was a way, we got engaged, and then got married a bit over a year later.

I personally think there should be a requirement for couples to live together for at least a year before marriage. And this shouldn't include any wedding planning time. You really get to know a person when you live with them. I think there are alot of "short" marriages that could of avoided if they they had lived together first. And that's my 2 cents

My personal experience: I moved in with my guy in 2007. We've lived together on & off since then. We've split up & such & our last break actually did us a LOT of good, hence us getting married in only 92 days!!! ♥

But I kind of recommend it because you get to know your partner and their habits before you get married. My first horrifying moment was one day I spent my entire day cleaning our apartment.. SPOTLESS I MIND U. And he came home from his sweaty, scond shift warehouse job, took his socks off and sat them on our kitchen table. WTF? I snapped. I ended up telling him I wanted to move out (but after calling my Dad learned that love is a bed of roses but you have to watch for the torns.) After that we talked, he stopped doing that and I put a clothes hamper at the end of the hallway in plain sight when you walk into the front door. LOL. Other experiences, shoes in the Hall, dirty cups in the living room, etc. But now that we've lived together so long it's second nature for

Me to pick up after him without getting upset.

I was always against living with someone before marriage but now that I have been for so many years I see its very important because you see how they really are and see how and what they spend their money and time on.Plus you get used to their bad habits and they get used to yours and you can learn if you can deal with it. And I totally agree with Lil Bit there are so many short 6 month marriages that probably could have been avoided by living with each other for a bit

It's def a personal decision. FS moved in with me 6 months into our relationship because we both wanted it. 1 week I would stay at his for nights straight & then the next week he'd stay at mine so we pretty much lived together already. Personally, I got to know FS a lot better once he moved in. We didn't have 1 single arguement for 6 months!!! Crazy I know but I only know this because FS said he knew he was going to marry me since no arguements sprung up, (not the only reason but a big one) lol. We learned each others habits, more importantly the annoying ones so we can understand why & move on. Like others have said, where & how they spend their $ is important. You're gonna want to know that... you don't want to start off your marriage in debt because of FS or go into debt because of them. There are so many pros & cons. I def believe it was a wise choice for me. I've actually changed some of FS's habits ie. leaving dishes everywhere, laundry, leaving the cupboards & fridge door open..

Hiding the endless wires from the computer, xbox, PS3, speakers... ugh what a nightmare. My laptop broke a while ago so I spend time on the desktop while he does whatever with the tv & then we change. Also, i no longer have a car (freaking accident, grrrr) so I use his truck when I need to. Like everyone says, it's a personal preference. Oh & we had to get a bigger bed because of him, lol, my Ogre. Love him though.

Oh, right... we've been together since February 2006, engaged Feb 2009, getting married August 2010.

FS and I were roommates before we ever started dating. I can see the viewpoint of people who choose not to live together until they're married. It just adds more to the newness of it all, and I'm sure it makes things very exciting for quite awhile. But I couldn't do it. I'd have to live with someone before I considered marrying them. In fact, I'd have to live with someone before I considered even dating them. Like heavnsnt said, sex aside, I'd want to know how they live day-to-day before I could be comfortable considering spending the rest of my life with them. It's one thing to know my baby works from 7PM to 4AM. It's another thing entirely to learn the order in which he gets ready for work, his favorite way to say bye, and his temperament when he returns (which, though it's unrelated, is always pretty good). It's already understood between us who does which chores, who's the grumpiest in the morning (guilty), and what the standard parking order is in the driveway. =0)

We have lived together for over a year now and it is the best decision I have ever made. We are working out all the kinks right now rather than that hard first year. We have a joint bank account and pay everything together. We just felt that we were getting married and it's easier to get these things out of the way now. I wouldn't have traded it for the world. My brother and sister-in-law just got married and they are having trouble adjusting to living together as well as the stressful beginnings of a marriage. They are arguing more and not getting much sleep because they aren't used to sleeping with someone and sharing a bed. So I believe that living together is a great idea before you get married. But it all depends on you as a couple and what your believe's are.

I do agree its a personal choice. Although me and my FH decided not to live together. Its a difficult choice to make and yes there are days when I wish I could see him or cuddle up next to him but we both agree it will be worth the wait. We do not judge anyone considering we are in the minority of people who wait but it truely is a choice you both have to make and its no one elses business, everyone is different.

My FS and I have been living together for over a year. I love it and wouldn't want it any other way. We're both touchy-feely and we love that time of day when we snuggle in bed before sleep and after we wake up. It's very intimate without having to be sexual. It's that time of day when we do a lot of talking and we've been able to learn a lot about what each of us wants for our life. I think it has brought us even closer together (if that was possible)