Living with parents before marriage

I could never imagine moving straight out of mom and dads house into a house with a new husband. I've been out of my parents house since 18 (lived alone, lived with roommates, stayed with some boyfriends) and now at 25 own my home with my fiancé and our daughter and still don't feel like I'm ready.

Just be ready to grow up very fast and know that you may be skipping a big stage in the "growing into your own person" part of life. I know everyone is different, I just feel it's so important to be independent at least once in your life and face the world on your own. I also don't see how it's possible to marry someone WITHOUT living with them first.... I mean damn what if they are AWFUL? lol You sound like my best friend, she's been dating her high school sweetheart since they were 14. They are 21 now and getting married next month. I promise I've given her the same speech and she's probably sick of me. Lol oh well... To each their own.

I agree with most of the PPs, communication is very important. You will view each other in very different light when you have to see each other's worst habits every single day.

If I had to choose on living alone vs living together, I would choose living alone.

I lived on my own moving around the country for 3 years while DH was finishing grad school and I was getting my career started. He lived alone over a year before he moved in with me and we got engaged.

Why? Living alone gives you the independence you need. It teaches you to be comfortable with silence, doing your basic chores alone, and just being at peace with yourself. It prepares you to be a better and stronger partner. Even if you are paying rent to your parents or "helping out" around the house.

Living alone is something everyone should have to do for a while.

DH and I moved in together and got engaged within a month (I had a rule I don't live with boyfriends, so he was willing to commit once he moved in) and the world didn't explode. We've been married for about 6 months and living together for a year. It's fine. We are great partners.

You learn about how the other person lives in the years you are dating. If there are shockers when you move in together, your SO must be a great con artist. I had periods of time where DH and I stayed together for several weeks (when he was studying for his boards or in between semesters) and it gave a good view as to how each of us lived.

My 2 cents is to get premarital counseling, even if you don't have "problems". DH and I did it and it was worth every penny. We did about 6-7 sessions I think. It gets you talking about things you may have never considered before (or if you did, it never hurts to go over them again).