Logistics of “destination” Wedding

It might be best to include both invitations in one, so that people can see, immediately, that they have a choice.

I mean, if it's safe, I'd find a way to go to Germany, I've always wanted to go. (Mein Deutsch ist sehr schlecht!) But, as you said, it's not cheap, so having a state-side reception is great for those who can't quite manage that.

Hi Amanda! You and I are in a similar situation. I'm getting married in the US, but my fiancé is from Spain (where we live) and we're also going to have a second reception in his hometown a month after the wedding. We're not inviting the entire guest list to each event, but for those who are getting two invitations, we're going to include them all in one envelope to make it more streamlined. We've already designed and printed our Save the Dates to coordinate with each other, and those will be going out in the same envelope, too.

As far as inviting everyone to both events, I'd just make sure you're really positive you know how many people will make a solid effort to go to Germany. We're probably going to invite all of my fiancé's family to the US wedding, but a LOT more of them have said they're going than we expected. Expecting up to a 50% decline rate to reach your ideal numbers for the Germany wedding may be unrealistic, even for an international wedding. You know your guests better than I do, of course, but people may see a wedding in Germany as the perfect event to look forward to once the Covid situation is under control, and you may have more people willing to go than you expect. You also definitely don't want to invite more people than you can afford or can fit in the venue.