Long-distance Bridesmaid

I asked one of my bridesmaids from out of state in person when I was in town visiting with my fiance. My other bridesmaid, I couldn't fly out there, she lives in Missouri and I'm in California. I asked via video call.

I actually ended up texting 3 of my bridesmaids who live in state. It wasn’t my intention but we all got so busy and I wanted them to know. It wasn’t a big deal. The frills can come later

Video call or phone call are great options! I did what PP said about when I was in town I asked but that sounds like it won’t work for you so I say video call

I sent my friend in California (I live in MI) a gift box with goodies asking her. She responded by accepting and taggin me on a fb post (even though we talk on the phone quite a bit). It was cute!

I did a video chat with my college girlfriend who lives in FL and I live in CA. I just made sure she knew the dates and told her if she can’t afford it I understood completely and she would of course still be a guests and invited to whatever wedding events were planned and no obligation either way. She agreed and it was so much fun to have her with me as my bridesmaid on my wedding day!

I sent mine cards, may seem impersonal but it works for my group. 2 of my bridesmaids asked me to be their bridesmaid in the same way. We are all busy and live a couple hours from each other, seemed the easiest way to ask. We only get a chance to get together every couple months or so.

I sent a little box and card to mine. M FSILs are in state, but I am getting married in VA, live in MD and my girls are I NH, FL, OR, CO, and NY... and my parents/family are in RI. So definitely doing the long distance planning! you could send a card and have her open it while you video chat?

USPS does flat rate boxes I think the medium box is like $10 to ship. So that wouldn’t be too much if you are doing some sort of gift.
My friend asked me via mail because she sent a canvas that had photos of us over the years and at the top it said “Will you be my bridesmaid?” It was so cute! Also I love getting snail mail so it was double excitement of getting asked plus sitting there wondering what I ordered!
Reguardless, she will be excited to be apart of your day!

Half of my bridal party lives 1,500 miles away. I called them. They're happy to be asked and I don't think they miss having a card or anything. They'll get gifts at the wedding.

I’d do a call or Skype. I’ve seen brides write on forums about sending gifts without taking the time to verbally ask first and then they don’t get a response right away and worry. I guess I feel like a call is more personal than shipping something off in the mail.

So I live the DC area; my bridesmaids are in VA, OH, FL, and MS. I sent them hand-written personalized messaging asking them if they wanted to be my bridesmaid. It's always nice to get something in the mail that isn't a bill or junk mail haha. I got the cards from Etsy. On the front, they had a glitter ring, so I put their name in the diamond portion of the ring and wrote "Will you be my bridesmaid/MOH" in the circular part of the ring and covered it with a scratch-off sticker. Inside of the card was the personalized hand-written message. Each one sent me back a picture of their card with a Yes text message haha. I liked this idea because everyone is on different schedules and have so much going on.

I texted my 3 bridesmaids. There is no need to do anything elaborate. Just communicate with her the way you normally would. After my girls said yes I followed it up with a card and thank you package.

Call her? I ask my Bridal Party the old fashion way - I called all of them personally an hour after FH proposed to ask them to be in my bridal party.

I sent mine a video of me so they could watch it when they had time

Three of my bride maids are out of state and out of the country! one of then I sent her a video that I want her in my wedding!!.

In the end is the thought that counts do what comes comfortable to you! I am sure she will be honor

Most of mine are out of state, we just did a video chat, and I asked them. No need to send anything or spend $$$

My maid of honor is in South Carolina while I'm here in California. I sent a "bridesmaid proposal" box that I created myself and then used flat rate shipping to send it. She loved it!

All 3 of my bridesmaids are many states away. I put little scratcher cards (ordered off amazon..scratched to reveal "will you be my bridesmaid?") in with their save the date. It was a surprise for them

I sent my brides maids these boxes I bought from Michael's and stained and engraved.The metal hearts and letters are magnets and I put a ring in them and I asked them to be in my wedding with a personalized poem.

My cousin lives in PA and I live in KCMO. I sent a box with goodies. It was about $20 to ship