I want to marry my FH, please believe this. But I am not happy. I am not spending the holidays with him. It is a long story but just know that it is something that could be changed but not without family drama. My in-laws have a huge problem with non-married couples spending holidays together. My family is confused as to why an engaged couple wouldn't....its just a clashing of fire and ice and it is a difficult situation to work with. Spending the holidays without him is absolutely breaking my heart. The same happened last year.
I don't want to go on a rant about the millions of things and reasons why I am resentful of certain situations and so on...what I'm most concerned with is that I haven't been happy for a few months now. He got a new job and he's even further away now. We have even less time together. Our weekends are so stressful....at least for me. I'm trying to spend what little time I have with him and every minute counts...so we travel back and fourth each weekend. We have big families and we have to fit in time to spend with them on the weekends. I don't even look forward to the weekend anymore. It just feels like another job. I don't want to do household chores (laundry etc.) when he visits because I don't want to lose time with him. So everything begins to pile up.
At the end of the weekend either I have to leave or he has to leave me. Alone. Every time I am heart broken. I don't even want to talk on the phone with him because I can't stop myself from getting upset about how unhappy I am. I told him I was and he is an understanding person but I just feel like we are in this stalemate and he doesn't understand how unhappy I am. I had to take my ring off two times because I couldn't take it anymore. I had to turn a photo of us around because I couldn't take it anymore. I feel like I am the only one feeling this way and I don't know what to do.
I am scared that this is going to kill our relationship. I feel like I can't do it anymore. Someone please shed some light on this situation....I need guidance and I don't know what to do. What do you do if you're unhappy? I want to marry him but I am unhappy and have been for a few months. (Sorry this is all so depressing)