Long engagement - too soon to ask bridesmaids?

I think it’s too soon. Generally bridesmaids and maid of honors aren’t involved in planning the wedding. And even if you wanted them to, two years is a long time for someone to have to help plan a wedding that isn’t theirs. I would wait till 9-12 months out.

I would wait. You never know where your friendship will be in 2 years. You could ask someone you are close with today and could have a falling out in a year. Generally members of the wedding party don’t help plan.

I agree with those above. You may luck out and have really involved bridesmaids, but I wouldn't bank on it. If you have a fun wedding event, maybe just ask a friend or two if they'd be interested in helping out since you want a 2nd opinion. They don't have to be wedding party to be interested and/or help out.

Also, relationships drastically change in 2 years. I wouldn't ask anyone more than a year out... Kidding, I asked mine 6 months out!

Yes, much too soon. 10-12 months before the wedding is recommended. Relationships change and the last thing you want is to be stuck with someone you no longer speak to as one of your bridesmaids.

Too soon for sure. I asked my ladies a little over a year out, it was kind of early but it just felt right. FH and I are the only ones planning the wedding.

I asked mine 15 months ahead of time (which was still early, but had to due to FH going away for a few months, we wanted to ask before he left).

When people say they want BM's and MoH to help plan I don't really think they mean at the same level they plan with their FH.... I'm pretty sure they mean with just general advice/questions/thoughts. Maybe she wants to go with a girl friend to wedding shows or asking what colors they would like to wear/have in the wedding. Maybe she wants to go dress shopping or look through pintrest and hair and make-up styles. You know the things FH doesn't really want to do.

Since mine were just my sisters I asked right away. If I was having friends though I would have waited

Wait until you're a year out

Definitely wait because so much can change from now until your wedding. Congrats on your engagement!

I asked mine like 2 years out....3 of 5 are related to either me or FH so I knew they weren't going anywhere. My MOH is my best friend so I knew she wasn't going anywhere. The other BM is a longtime friend who I'm not SUPER close with but honestly we needed to even out the numbers and I knew nothing bad would happen between us, she my MOH other best friend and we've all known each other since high school.

If you're REALLY REALLY confident that nothing is going to change your relationships, I think it's fine. Or you can just ask your MOH now and the others later.

I don't think its too soon. We got engaged in July 2017 for a Sept 2019 wedding. I asked my MOH in Aug 2017 for the same reason I wanted her to be involved as much as possible. I then asked my other 3 BM's by Oct 2017. As long as you know that the people you choose will still be around and in your life by May 2021 then its ok to ask them now.

As someone who is in a similar situation (I got engaged in Feb. 2018, marrying in Apr. 2020), I asked my bridesmaids last summer. If I could change that decision I would have waited. As some PPs put, relationships can change, and some for me have! Almost 2 years have flown by, but it is also a really long time. I would wait until next year to ask them! If they want to be involved and help, they don't need the bridesmaid title yet