Long engagement?

My engagement will be just a little over 1 year. Could have been 1.5 years or longer depending on date availability at the time.

Nothing wrong with long engagements.

I got engaged March 2016 and am planning on getting married September 2018. We have the money to do it now but we're choosing to have a longer engagement. We're about to move out of state and start new jobs I would rather get settled then have to deal with all that and wedding planning. I've definitely gotten some looks for the long engagement but most people understand. Also some of my friends are already planning September 2017 weddings so we would have to work around that so now I can just stake my claim to sept 2018 without competing for weekends with anyone yet.

Also long engagements give you more time to really price out vendors and figure out what you want. You won't be under a huge time crunch to pick the first person you meet with because you just need to get somebody booked you can really shop around.

We got engaged in Feb 2015. We're finally under the year mark and I still get questions about "why so long". If you had a shorter engagement, they'd question that too.

Wow date twin.... we have the EXACT same story almost. So weird.... our date is the same. Long engagement and hitting our anniversary in 2018 Im happy we are doing it because we have a big trip already planned for 2017 and the money sitch would have been to hard... itll go by fast for us Im sure.

There's nothing wrong with waiting until it's right for you! Some people do 3 months and some people 6 years- whatever works! It's about the marriage in the end.

My engagement will be just shy of 15 months. It has been perfect for us- we're a year in on Thursday already!

We got engaged 12/24/2015 and we're getting married 3/24/2018. Two years and three months. Most younger people seem to understand better, it's the older people who can't seem to grasp it. In the past, people got engaged and married in 12 months or less.

We're paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves, so that was part of it. There are also a lot of family events in the next year (weddings, graduations) so I wanted to be able to separate my wedding from them. Also, we are able to get all the vendors we want, which is a huge plus.

We got engaged in September 2015 and are getting married in October 2016. Just over a year.

We got engaged in November 2011 and just got married January 2016. We were always asked when we were getting married. We just kept saying "We'll get there". Eventually we did haha.

Wow #taylormade1029. You sound like such a peach! Why would people have a long engagement? A whole bunch of reasons, but obviously none of those matter. And obviously anybody who has an engagement longer than yours just wants a BIG WHITE WEDDING and doesn't think of the marriage afterwards! *eye roll*

We had a 22 month engagement, and I wouldn't have shortened it for anything. We got engaged while moving 2000 miles across country, got new jobs, I traveled for my new job for 3 months straight (only home every other weekend), and bought a house all in the 5 months since we got engaged. Oh, and during that time DH had a horrible work accident in which he had to undergo 3 surgeries in less than 3 months. Does that sound like the time to plan a wedding?

Once we got settled after all those crazy life changes, we were able to enjoy the engagement. Enjoy it without feeling rushed. I loved every second of being engaged to DH and now I love every second of being married to him. A long engagement allowed us to explore further what we wanted in a marriage. It was a stage of our life, and I'm glad we didn't rush it. Added bonus? We were able to also able to get our first choice in vendors to have our gorgeous, well-thought out, highly anticipated wedding.

Nice ASSumption #taylormade1029. I could flip your argument and say, what's the rush to get married so quickly? Are you pregnant?

We got engaged June 2014 and married May 2016. It flew by! We also got a lot of comments about why we were waiting so long. People would get annoyed with me when I would bring up my wedding because it was "so far away" lol. The morning of the wedding I kept hearing that time flew & they couldn't believe our day was here.

I got engaged December 2014. We also had a lot of family members give us crap about our long engagement until I start joking around with them.

I started responding, " Hey, weddings are expensive. If you want to give me some money, maybe I can plan it sooner. But really I need to save money because we paying for this on our own."

Don't let them get to you! Not sharing many wedding details will help out A LOT!

Eta: @Taylormade1029 You're right I do want to impress my guest!!! I want there to be endless amount alcohol and food so they have a great time!!

Someone always has something to say. Don't let it bother you. We have a short engagement, about 6 months, but that is our choice and we have our reasons. I get a lot of questions about why so short of an engagement. People are nosey.

You will get questions either way. FH and I got engaged December 2015 and will be getting married next Sunday. The questions were "why so fast" and "are you pregnant" type of stuff. I thought it was quite selfish for anyone to ask these questions and feel like it is no one's business especially when it is not THEIR money or THEIR life. Thing is my family has a tradition in which the woman and man does not live together until they are married. I wanted to honor that tradition and FH respected that. I also did not want to have children by a man I was not married to. Those are my personal things that I would never impose on my friends. FH and myself looked at our budgets, decided on a budget and said "that's it, we will only have the wedding fit to that budget." Originally we planned 2017, but the opportunity presented itself to have it this year through connections with people who offered assistance in venues, etc. We would have been fools to say "no thanks" while trying to say up money between my house and his apartment. Now we are having exactly the wedding we wanted on our own dime and we will already have our home established. Ignore people as they will contribute a lot of lip, but no cash in your hands to cover the event.

Got engaged Christmas 2014, getting Married Aug 6, 2016. So 20 month engagement. Once you hit the one year mark things will go fast (it did for me). Now at below the 3 month mark this is where the fun starts (honestly planning had NOT been fun for me/us) my shower is in 10 days, FH's bach is the week after my shower, my bach is July 4 weekend. Small details are now the priority (just got my veil, guestbook, picked my bouquet) no more worrying about the big things. Personally I hated having a long engagement. I would have preferred about 15 months or less. During this time we got our first home, 2 cars, attended 6 other weddings, and I started a new job. Its been a lot, and there is a lot of planning down time, which sucks. But once you get to the 1 year mark it won't suck as much.

LOL I just read taylormade's comment.

FH and I already own our home and are not having children. There is absolutely no reason for us to rush to get married. We're enjoying being engaged. We want to live our lives in a certain style and also be able to save money for a decent wedding. I am also looking for a new job, and he just finished school.

I know people who have been engaged for 6-7 years before they got married. They have beautiful relationships. I don't think the length of an engagement is at all indicative of the strength of a relationship.

When we get married, we will have been engaged for 23 months. Some people have told us how smart we are for saving, others have said that's way too long, what if you break up?? Well, if we thought we were going to break up we probably wouldn't be engaged and spending thousands of dollars on a party...

After about the 100th person commenting on our long engagement, I would just laugh and say, "haha yeah..." and walk away.

@ taylormade - Nice way of being judgemental. You don't know people's circumstances and why they're having long engagements.

I got engaged in February 2016 and getting married October of 2017, its going by fast. I did it for the same reasons as you, I love October, and 7's are lucky for me (my date is 10/7/17). I wanted to be able to save up some extra cash and I didn't want to rush planning. Enjoy your engagement!

ETA: @gymrat I was thinking the same thing... great mind!

We officially got engaged 2 days ago, have already been planning for the last month or so and are getting married Nov. 2017.

I also wanted to have a long engagement because I wanted to have more time to get in shape and save for our wedding. We are kind of having a destination wedding (we are going home to our family and friends instead of having them come to us across the country), so I knew there were going to be more logistics I needed to figure out.

I actually wanted to wait until 2018 to get married (we also want to get married on our dating anniversary, lol) and this other forum I belonged to tore me apart about having such a long engagement.

I left that forum and joined WW and haven't looked back This group is soooo much better! But in the meantime my FH and I talked and really think we could do it in 1.5 years vs. 2.5 and pushed it up a whole year.

We've been together for 7.5 years already so I don't want to strap myself for cash or time and figure it is going to happen at a nice, steady rate just like the rest of our relationship.