Long engagement?

Me! Engaged December 2013 and getting married March 2017. We wanted to wait until we graduate and settle into jobs. What's the point of rushing?

I completely judge people who have a hashtag as a user name.

I got engaged on the new year (Jan 1, 2016) and my fiance and I are aiming for October of 2017. I think that is pretty short, but my family is pushy and they nod and raise their eyebrows and look confused. I wonder if they expected me to get married within a month. The looks bother me too, but you have to brush them off. I tell mine, "We'll get married when we have our shit together."

Your day, your marriage, your life, your choice.

Long engagement here (about 2 years) -- I'm really enjoying being able to plan at a leisurely pace.

Don't worry, though, the time will go quickly. Once you're about a year out, you'll stop getting 'the face' -- I know exactly what you mean! :-)

We got engaged in Sept 2015 a month after moving in together, were getting married Oct 2017 for US we wanted time to adjust to our new life together and save up for our special day w/o compromising on everyday life. We also plan to pay off the wedding cash so we don't go in to married life in debt.

@taylormade1029 - there are many reasons why ppl wait to get married, an engagement doesn't necessarily mean you need to rush to the altar. I agree with my FH when he says were getting married as a formality not because is going to change our current relationship or bc it means that were going to love each other that much more once we sign that piece of paper.

btw @Amandatrieu - I have a friend who's going on 6 years engaged, now THATS a long engagement.

Also using your hashtag as your user name is not very secure. It's very easy to find out a ton about you. Just sayin'

Any time I see someone throw out that they think someone's saving up for a wedding to impress people, all I can think is #jealous

Our whole engagement will be just under 8 months. 20 minutes after I was engaged my grandfather called and asked if we had a date yet! I was like uh no I'm still shaking! I don't think there is anything wrong with longer engagement. Originally I thought summer of 2017, when FH and I discussed it he's like wait what? No. I want this summer. Luckily our venue had a Saturday left this summer so it worked out. We are not paying for our wedding, if we did we would probably have been engaged for like 5 years. lol

Got engaged 12/25/15. Getting married 8/5/18. We chose the date so that we can have wedding we want . Weddings are not about impressing people but all about what the couple want. People can get married in short period of time especially if they have help paying for their wedding. For others that have to pay for everything one their own it's different.

Got engaged October 2015. Getting married this October. But there's nothing wrong with a longer engagement. Do what works for you. People are always going to say something, but you two are the ones getting married and having to pay for the wedding.

We have been engaged for 6 months now; we plan to get married next April. We constantly get the "Why so long" question and it urks me!

I personally see nothing wrong with a long engagement! It's better to give yourself plenty of time to save vs being rushed!

We have had a 19 month engagement. While the time has been so long it's been the best for us.

People will always have their opinions, just let it roll off your shoulders.

I had the same reaction when I told people I would have a 2 year engagement. As soon as I hit 1 year left, I quit getting the comments and people started getting more excited.

Chick with the hashtag name, who is making excuses to not get married?

I hate when people get on here acting as if they have this great epiphany about marriage that none of us have arrived at. Oh please, let me get you a ladder so you climb off that high horse you are sitting on. You joined WW to plan a wedding. So stop it.

LOL.. some of these comments crack me up! I hate the feeling that I have to justify my long engagement sometimes. I WANTED a long engagement! I married my ex husband WAY TO FAST and I am loving this slow planning and loving enjoying being engaged. We also have travel plans next year and a cruise attached to my wedding we need to finish paying for so anyone that has an issue with that is a moron and can suck it....... Basically.. if two people are actually meant to be together for life, two more years without a piece of paper tying you together legally are not going to make a bit of difference.

Pretty much everyone we have talked too has something to say. I cant wait to hit that year mark so many of you have talked about!!!!

FH and I got engaged November 2015 and aren't getting married until December of next year. We will be paying for a majority of the wedding on our own so I wanted the time to save up the money since we're also in the process of looking to buy a home. We get a lot of people that are upset we're waiting that long but it's not their wedding it's ours.

You can counter "Why so long?" with "What's the rush?" You have your whole lives. My engagement was originally set to be over 2 years but I, like you, fell in love with the idea of marrying on our anniversary so we moved it up

We've been engaged since the end of 2014 and won't be married until April 2017.

We got engaged Nov 2013 and married Sept 2015. My best friend for engaged after me and married before me. We did it because DH had a semester of college left, I wanted a fall wedding and we wanted to save so it pushed it from Fall 2014 to 2015. But honestly to be able to have a good meal, venue, drinks for all your family and friends and have it all paid off and none on credit is worth it!! We can enjoy the memories and marriage free and clear

We just got engaged may 1st. We didn't want to wait more than a year but once we realized how much it cost just to feed everyone we decided we wanted to save up and push it to 2018 as well. Some people questioned our decision on it being so far away but a majority of people understood and agreed. Wedding are expensive and we too weren't will to change our month of September because it means something to us. In the end it's about the both of you and your happiness. People will either support you or they can take the high road. U and ur FH have the rest of your lives together...so what's the rush right??