Long engagement?

We got engaged April 2014 and are getting married This Saturday! In total we had a 2 year 1 Month engagement.

It was the best decision we ever made.

At first I didn't want to wait that long and a lot of people didn't understand. but everyone was able to past & over their opinions (at least to us) about it.

We booked All of our vendors in 2014 and locked in 2014 prices for our 2016 wedding. We were able to save properly to pay Cash for our NYC wedding And 2 week Honeymoon. I can honestly say that I have had a relatively stress free planning time since I was able to space everything out and plan at my leisure.

Now 3 days before my wedding I have Nothing to do but final drop offs and last organization things. So, I say if it works for you, do it! And Fcuk anyone's opinions, they'll have them regardless of what you do!

I got enaged December 2015 and I am getting married April 2017. Everyone asked us why so long as well and the answer was simple

..that's the date the venue had available and we wanted spring.

I feel like telling people.its none of their business but I bite my tongue.

Ahhhh. You are getting married exactly one year after me. Yay!!

Engaged August of 2015, getting married October of 2017. We wanted to get married on a Saturday that was the 21 of the month, because both of our birthdays are the 21st of our months. Plus the whole paying for it ourselves thing. By the time we're married, we'll have been together for 9 years. We're just not in a rush.

I've been engaged since 2012, and am getting married next April. No real reason for the long engagement...just busy with life in general, so wedding planning took a back seat. And we already have a son together, own a house together, share a bank account, etc. etc. etc.

So we never had a reason to quickly dive into marriage.

Definitely got a few side eyes though, the first couple of years after our engagement. Even FFIL, whom I've known longer than FH, said something to the effect of, "If an engagement lasts longer than a year, it means someone has cold feet!"

I sweetly pointed out that sometimes, when a person rushes into marriage with a short engagement, they end up with a divorce less than a year later. *cough*FFIL*cough*

He laughed and never brought it up again.

I feel ya completely! I got engaged November 2015 and won't be getting married until October 2018. We really wanted to get married in 2017 but, personal reasons have prohibited it (financial reasons as well). And when I tell people it won't be until October 2018, I always get the question "why so late" or "why are you waiting". It gets annoying which then overwhelms me...But, I'm learning to just ignore the questioning and change the subject.

I just got engaged last week and we settled on October of next year, so just a little over a year away. People haven't been too judgmental about the date but they definitely have opinions haha. I think the longish engagement doesn't phase them because my fiance and I are fairly young (21 and 22) and they know I want to graduate school before the wedding.

But I personally hate waiting. I wish I could get married this fall but financially it's not an option.

I have learned so far in this last week or so of dealing with people asking a million questions and just smile and nod and if they suggest something say "Oh wow that's a great idea I'll have to consider that" -_-

Now that I think about it though our engagement isn't too long based on the average length. It just feels like it's going to be forever! Plus based on the way our relationship has been and how quickly we got engaged (we started dating last April) a year and a few months of waiting to get married is over half of our whole relationship.

@gymrat No not pregnant, sweetie. Thanks for asking

Ours was 19 months. At first our wedding seemed like a lifetime away and now it's in 3 weeks! He last year has flown by, but we were able to plan and save, save, save. 2 years isn't that long. It'll be here before you know it.

We are getting married in a year and some people have asked why we are waiting so long. Why do people make comments like this? Why can't they just congratulate and move on?

Engaged December 2015, married January 2017. I always wanted a short engagement but 13 months seems about average. Do whatever works for you!

Our engagement will be 2.5 years long, so I feel ya!! Take your time, have your choice of vendors and enjoy being engaged

We were originally going to get married next October, but after realizing how expensive a wedding actually is, we decided to push the date forward another 6?? months to save. So far, we've only had a few friends and family ask why so long, but most understand since we have two children (4&6months). I'm a lil bummed my kids will be older by then, especially my youngest since I've always wanted nursing pictures captured in my wedding dress. But regardless, I can't wait!

That is only the beginning of unwelcome opinions that you will receive! Good luck!

We will have a 20 month engagement which feels just right to us. When we got engaged there were a lot of people pushing us to do it this year instead of next. Primarily our friends who were already married and got eaten alive by planning said, "it's not worth it; do it now" or my friends who aren't even engaged were the ones saying, "when my bf proposes to me, we are getting married stat!" Okayyy hun. One of my dear friends got engaged Christmas Day and is getting married this summer. Seeing how stressed she is about her short time frame, there is no doubt it makes me feel good about my longer one. However, she is totally proving that an absolutely beautiful, detailed wedding can be planned in a short amount of time. Whatever fucking works for you & yours!

Got engaged February and getting married in December. I get both reactions though, tbh, depending on the other person's ideals he started saving up a couple months after we started dating, so we have an emergency fund (gotta think about that married life) and he has a savings account from working in high school, $4000, that he's going to put toward the wedding in order to share the burden with my parents. If we waited longer we could afford to have that $20000 average American wedding, but I can't help but think about how much I'd rather be able to afford a down payment on a house in the next five to ten years, so we're keeping it under 10000.

Really what it comes down to is what's most important for you - we're really looking forward to starting the rest of our lives together, but we do understand that certain things should be in place, and so certain sacrifices must be made (not having the customary 3-6 month engagement, not having an expensive wedding) but we don't want to let that keep us from getting married for too long. We're both 22

If you've got a good feeling about it and you know it's the best choice, don't worry about the long faces and respond sweetly chances are, people won't worry so much if they can see your confident