Long or Short Engagement?

Short engagement - we decided to get married long before getting officially engaged. We started planning several months prior. Our actual engagement will be a little over 10 months.

Our engagement will be just over a year. We got engaged 10/7/19 and will be eloping 10/19/20 😬

Long. I am in grad school and we currently are long distance. The long engagement helps make the planning process easier. Our engagement will be just under 2 years.

Long! I've been engaged for 2 years now. But we're been together for almost 13 years! I'm taking my sweet time planning

Im taking my time my engagement will be 28 months before I say I DO

Our engagement is longer. Precisely 27 months. We wouldn’t have it any other way. Less stress and more time to plan and enjoy each other before the big day.

Short: three months. We did a lot in a short time and still have some to do and we're 16 days out. We DIY'd some things, but there's a lot that isn't DIY. A lot of it is informal, but it's still overwhelming at times.

Dated for 2.5 years, Engaged for 9 months (got engaged Oct 13, 2019, getting married July 4, 2020). It's actually a longer engagement than we wanted, but we had to lengthen it so that my family could attend!

Waiting through WinterThe engagement day

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We wanted a short engagement, but it's ending up being 9 months because of family logistics. I'm sure planning a wedding within 3 months is stressful! What was the hardest part?

I’m a fan of short engagements, however due to personal illness I am taking my time planning our wedding

I think we are right in the middle at 9 months. Got engaged Dec 8th and married Sept 22. We didn't originally plan on only having 9 months to plan but we weren't budging on our date and it was the last time it would be on a weekend and we didn't want to wait 5 more years after being together for 7 years. We were married on our 8th anniversary.

View Quoted Comment The hardest part is actually getting the dress all altered in time. We didn't get to go dress shopping till November 9 and the wedding is December 21. I go in today to do the last alterations appointment and I'm hoping it's all done correctly. Other than that it's about making sure there's enough room at the venue (it's a friend's house) for everyone. I only expected about 30 people and it's ballooned to 40. I'm super hella nervous and stressed about everything, but those two are the most stressful.

Long engagement...21 months

Average which I guess could be considered long- 14 months

We are having a 16 month engagement so I don’t think that’s too long. I think it’s a good amount of time to plan for everything

Long - 18 months. I wanted 6 months, but he proposed in December. I'm a teacher and I have a school-aged kid, so a summer wedding really makes the most sense for us, logistically. We couldn't do the 6 months because I'm locked into a lease my landlord wouldn't let me out of early for the wedding. So 18 months it is. Today is actually our engagiversary.

I would say our is average length. Got engaged in September 2019 and will be getting married just over a year November 8 2020

We got engaged in May 2019 and will be married in May 2020

Long - ours will be 2 years and 6 days long by the end... I didn't love the idea and I fought my FH on it, but now I'm actually really grateful we chose this length because we're planning everything from Europe and we'll only have been back twice briefly before the wedding. For now I can just pick up wedding stuff when I want to and just do the fun stuff like surf Wedding Wire forums and procrastinate... for now!

Short!!!! It’s the primary reason FW and I aren’t officially engaged yet—I want as short of an engagement as possible, which means we need to save a good chunk of money before any rings are involved.


We both have very large and very involved families, and I know myself well enough to know that questions from them about wedding planning will stress me out to no end. I want to have everything as planned and lined up as possible before getting engaged so it can be an expedited process with as few opportunities for our families to butt in as possible