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Just Said Yes August 2021

Looking for creative solutions, my sister/moh likely won't make it to my wedding

Sydney, on June 16, 2021 at 6:47 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

The wedding is in August, and all the deposits are paid, and save the dates and invitations have already been sent out so postponing isn't an option.


My only sister, who is also my maid of honor, is pregnant and her due date is two weeks after my wedding. She lives in Chicago and my wedding is South Dakota. Previously, her doctor had cleared her to drive to the wedding, but recently some complications have been discovered and she may require a C-section and won't be able to leave Chicago. It is a very fluid situation, that will likely still require a game day decision even in a best case scenario.


With that being said, we are both really sad that she will likely miss the wedding. In preparation for that possibility, I am looking for creative ideas to ease this loss. Obviously livestreaming the wedding can be done, so she can watch from home, but I am really bummed that she and her husband and their three year old daughter won't be in any of the photos at my wedding. The idea of a cardboard cutout has been tossed around. To complicate things further, our parents are in the process of splitting up. So far it has been an amicable split, but I am really dreading not having my sister there as an ally for dealing with them and their nonsense. If anyone has any other ideas I would really appreciate hearing them. Thank you so much!

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Latest activity by Lady, on June 17, 2021 at 10:08 AM
  • Rosie
    Master February 2022
    Rosie ·
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    I'm so sorry, that must be super hard for all concerned!

    Could you have her record a speech that can be shown at the wedding? And could you maybe take some newborn photos later on with your new niece or nephew wrapped in your veil or your dress or snuggled next to some jewellery that you wore to the wedding, so that you can include them that way?
    Other things I've thought of - ask to borrow a piece of her jewellery so you feel like she is with you, or maybe one of those lockets to pin on to your bouquet. Or ask her for an old piece of blue clothing so you can sew a heart made from it inside your dress as your 'something blue'. Include her favourite food at the reception, or include her favourite flowers in your bouquet. Oh! Or reserve a seat for her down at the front and mention her in your ceremony or reception speeches.

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  • Grace
    Super February 2022
    Grace ·
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    I love Rosie's idea of a recorded speech. Video calling her while you are getting ready might also be an option to consider so she is still able to be there supporting you and you can hand the phone to your mother as a distraction/intervention.
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  • Tone
    Devoted July 2021
    Tone ·
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    For photos I’ve seen these (which I think are beautiful) where they draw your wedding photo but add the missing people and I absolutely love them!
    https://etsy.me/3bMJIp8
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  • Sydney
    Just Said Yes August 2021
    Sydney ·
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    These are such wonderful ideas, thank you so much for sharing them! I really like the idea of having some of her jewelry the day of and taking some photos with the new baby later on. Thank you so much!

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  • Sydney
    Just Said Yes August 2021
    Sydney ·
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    That is such a good idea to Facetime while I get ready! Thank you!

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  • Sydney
    Just Said Yes August 2021
    Sydney ·
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    Ooooo I will have to check that out! I never thought about using some digital magic to include them in photos. Thank you!

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  • J
    Dedicated May 2021
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    I'm so sorry that your sister cannot make it to your wedding, but also congratulations to her!
    My MOH and a best friend of 20 years, also couldn't make it to my wedding as she lives in Australia and their international borders are closed into 2022.
    We did a livestream using Lovecast (it's free) and it might have looked silly but I ordered a balloon with her face on it from zazzle. I really wanted her presence still at the wedding and sitting at the table with us.Looking for creative solutions, my sister/moh likely won't make it to my wedding 1

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    Lady ·
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    I love all the ideas PPs have given and don't really have anything to add. Just want to say that i'm sorry your sister won't be able to come!! I'm sure it's really hard.

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