Lost all excitement for the wedding

Why not cut the guest list and upgrade using the extra money to things you want to have?

If you know the dress name or style number/designer, you can check with stillwhite too. Talk to a florist about in season colorful flowers, we saved THOUSANDS by asking our florist for only in season blooms. Check facebook marketplace and local facebook groups for wedding decor, at least in my area there are tons of past brides selling decor and a lot of it is colorful and not all white. I designed using canva and printed at staples almost all of our paper things (signs for decor, programs, invites, etc) to save money. But maybe sit down and see who you could eliminate from the guest list to make it more affordable for you.

Unfortunately at this point I have already paid all the deposits for everything and if I decide to change venues or photographers or anything I'll be out several thousand dollars which is basically what I would save by cutting the guest list.

Thats a good idea about using Canva for things, like the menus and programs and stuff. My parents are getting me a Cricut Maker for Christmas so I'm hoping I can DIY a lot of the signs and make them cute and colorful. As for the guest list my parents list of people to invite is already pretty small I might be able to cut a few people but my fiancé has a large tight knit family so I feel like its harder to cut people on their side but everyone on his side is coming from out of state so I feel like it's pretty likely that a lot will RSVP no because of the travel costs. I just feel like right now I still have to plan as if everyone is coming until the invitations go out and RSVPs come in.

Planning for 100% guest acceptance is prudent and cuts out budget ambiguity. Should you get declines, the found money can be used for optional extras. For decor, I would focus on that which brings a greater impact like uplighting versus chargers or specific flowers. I brought in diy uplighting in the last wk with found $. It can be difficult to edit, but try to use your venue as backdrop as much as possible so you don't have to set-up/ take down/ take home much. I strongly suggest nixing Pinterest and Etsy as comparison only brings disappointment! I would also create a Splurges vs. Saves spreadsheet for each option and vendor to find ownership in each choice. I hope you find the joy again.

A lot of venues will upgrade things if they are making less meals. Some people come across this issue at times where they get a lot of "No" RSVPs. They already "Paid for" a certain amount of guests, so the venue will just reduce the food but add things like special desserts or food items for no extra cost.

OK gotcha. Was just trying to figure out how to suggest ways for you to have what you want. I hope it works out for you.

Anomalie was bought by Davids Bridal and won't be making dresses anymore.

For Genevieve,, i hope you find the joy that really is in the marriage. I know what thing recommended for decor is to find kits of wedding decor sold on facebook marketplace and maybe other sites. I think others here will also have great suggestions to make this feel a little closer to your original goals.

They were bought by Davids Bridal who plans to use the dress selection process rather than providing custom dresses. There is another company Lace and Liberty but their prices are higher from what i heard.