FI and I got engaged in 2019 and had originally planned for a spring 2020 wedding, but Covid forced us to postpone to fall 2020. And then we ended up postponing again that fall (due to Covid and also some family circumstances), and decided at the time not to choose a new date yet not really knowing how the pandemic was going to pan out.
But since then I've lost all motivation to plan a wedding. Having to postpone twice and the up and down stress of 2020 was mentally and emotionally exhausting. And then I changed jobs in fall 2020, and my new job is much more challenging (read: stressful) and has been sucking up most of my mental energy. In addition to that, I've become depressed since summer 2020 and planning a party for yourself when you're not feeling that great about life in general feels like...utter crap, to put it bluntly. I've been seeing a therapist since January and have gone back on meds to try to pull myself up out of this hole. Meanwhile, people keep asking me whether we've figured out any wedding plans. And we haven't.
FI and I still haven't gotten married, and I'm dreading having to take on the stress of planning something again (on top of my work stress, and on top of my depression). But I know we can't just stay engaged forever. And another complicating factor now is that one of his parents' health is declining and they most likely wouldn't be able to make the trip to our city for a wedding at this point. So I'm debating if we should try to do a tiny ceremony with just immediate family in the city where his parents live at some point later in 2021, and then plan an anniversary party or some type of delayed reception back in our city for 2022? Is that an option here?
I don't know, but I'm finding it super hard to get motivated/find the mental energy to think about any of this anymore and throwing a party is just feeling more and more out of reach. Plus I imagine people will have lost interest in our wedding by 2022 as it is since we will have been engaged for 3 years by that point.
Have any other would-have-been 2020 brides been struggling with lost motivation to plan a wedding after Covid, postponements and just...life getting in the way?
