Love is patient. Love is Kind. But my sisters got me losing my mind

If it were me, I would probably replace them with your bestfriends if your bestfriends can handle the responsibility better than your sisters. You never needed to choose your sisters out of obligation, but I definitely understand the urge to do so. Most brides will say that they don't have to throw you parties or anything, but if they agreed to do so and have failed, I think you should replace them. I'm petty though, so I might not provide you with the best advice 🤣 Please update us, lol. I have a feeling this might be a funny story. You apparently have so much more patience than I do. Good luck!!!

Not answering your calls or texts is not okay...Complete disregard for you and your wedding.

I would consider having your best friend(s) step in as MOH at this point.

Following suit with the previous posts, I'd definitely considering swapping them out for one of your besties. It sucks that you are in this position, the other option is to take them out to lunch and have a face to face with them. Let them know your concerns and that your BMs have not heard anything from them, allow them to step down if it's easier on them.

I would reach out to my sisters personal and do a check in...from there depending what answers you get you will kno what to do

Reach out and talk to your sisters. Standard Etiquette: Showers are not the responsibility of the wedding party. Or the MOH. .... Any close friend or family, close enough to be invited to the wedding but not necessarily in the bridal party, may volunteer to give a shower. Because WP are chosen from your closest friends and family, it often turns out that they volunteer. It is not something a bride can assign.
Could it be that your sisters decided to do it together, or with a friend, and not bother those at a distance? That would be fine. Or because they never volunteered, they are not responding because it is NOT the MOH job if she / they do not volunteer, and you should not have expected or assigned it. And they are old enough to know this? And your other bridesmaids are the ones volunteering, and should start planning? Or, they have planned enough parties in their time to spend 2 weeks at a he beginning of August planning, send out invitations or call people so they get invitation info 2 weeks ahead , and are planning it for September.
You need to talk to people, not send out list of responsibilities, especially ones assuming particular people will volunteer. They should have answered the other women's inquiries, either to say they were planning on helping, or not. But it may be the other ladies are the only volunteers, and need to get working.Since you should never have assigned responsibilities, they have as much right to be ticked off at you doing such a thing, as you do that they did not respond. So tread carefully. 🙂 The good news is, if the other ladies are volunteering, and assuming in these Covid times, less than 30 people, It is very easy to get the outline planned in an evening, find the place, and do the rest of the planning while invitations are out. You could still have a great shower, and a 1 evening bachelorette, if your friend, of friends and others, want to plan one. And for a home and yard shower, a piece of cake to get it together. I hope you have a good time.

I just want to say the title of your post is the best I can remember on this forum! (Personally, I wouldn't "demote" my sisters...that seems like a lot of potential drama and I agree with Judith that you bear some responsibility for sending them a list of your "dos and don'ts" -- that would rub me the wrong way. I'd have conversations with them and try to smooth things over -- they are your sisters and the world is pretty much a mess right now; I'm all for giving people some grace and focusing on the positive!) Good luck!

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I was gonna write my own reply, but then I read MOB So Cal's, and it is 1,000% on point! I definitely understand the stress / pressure / process of wedding planning and everything that goes along with it...it's super annoying that she doesn't reply to texts or anything. I also agree that it'd be best to have a little pow wow and get your sisters' take on things. Maybe they don't realize how certain things come across

I would first try and talk with them about all this and see if they even want to do it. Sometimes people don't really want to be in the wedding or be a MOH because of all the responsibilities and work and money but they don't know how to tell the bride to be. Sometimes people really do want to be in the wedding until they realize what they need to be doing. And if you can't get anywhere with them I'd just replace them with the best friend you originally wanted to have.

View Quoted Comment I agree I feel the same way lmbo! I hope everything works out for the best.