Love Languages

I like the idea but I don't like the options. I really don't like that giving gifts is a love language. That's my honey's. And I have the other 4.. lol. And I don't really like getting gifts. I'm not materialistic. I just love time..touch..affirmations and communication or connection. So I just don't love the whole idea. What's your love languages and his ?

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I completely understand.

My #1 love language is time and his #1 love language is physical touch.

This is great the giving gifts is a bit eeck but I do understand it. I buy hubby things when I go out for example his favorite cheese when grocery shopping or get him a big bottle of his favorite beer when I see it... Is the little things that we appreciate. Time and talking is one of the most important in my opinion. Touch is a given and acts covers them all.

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There is a book with research behind these love languages, if you like it you should definitely look more into it.

OMG can you share the link to that?

What's the website ?

View Quoted Comment Yep I will thank you kind lady

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It's definitely worth it, trust me

Https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

My hubby told me about this book when we were dating! We took the quiz and it helped us. Our #1 is Words of Affirmation. But when we had issues (still on occasion), I really need Acts of Service (like more help around the house). It’s cute because when I’m feeling stressed or low him cleaning the entire house, or cooking dinner, makes me sooooo happy! 💜

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I think the love languages are super helpful when both parties honor them.

View Quoted Comment Thank you very much

Oo definitely! My love language in terms of receiving is “Acts of Service” and his is “Words of Affirmation”. However, in terms of “giving”, I’m more of a gift giving. Not sure what his is 🧐

I think it's interesting for sure.
I was surprised service ranked higher than touch for myself. He hasn't done his yet but I'd guess his top two are more likely to be touch and quality time.

I love the love languages!
I'm kind of surprised at these comments about gift givers, though. It's not materialistic or icky to feel love from receiving gifts - in fact, gift givers are the ones that would appreciate the small, heartfelt gifts the most! It's okay for it to not be your personal love language, but it's not okay to call those that receive love differently than you materialistic.
For me, gift giving as a love language boils down to: this person I love thought about me when we were apart. Whether that be something grand or just a childhood friend giving me an old note we passed each other in English class they found while cleaning because it made them smile. It's easy for me to sometimes feel like I become insignificant in people's lives when I'm not physically with them, and gift giving is a reminder that that's just not true. I can feel lonely and look over at my shelf and see a book a friend picked up for me and be reminded that our loved ones always carry us with them.

My FH and I read this book while we were dating. My #1 love language is physical touch, and his #1 love language is acts of service. It really helped us identify how each of us accepts love and to better understand each other... and look at us now, getting married 11/9/19

View Quoted Comment Thanks for sharing!

View Quoted Comment Before counseling I assumed that my husband enjoyed receiving gifts because it's my second love language but it's actually his fifth!

View Quoted Comment It will be really interesting to see how his love languages compare to what you think they are.

View Quoted Comment I agree with you in regards to the gifts.