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Shemetrus, on November 19, 2023 at 10:31 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

Hello all,

so my fiance' and I are getting married next year. He has recently lost his grandmother, and about 8 years ago his grandfather. There's sometimes a little tribute to those that are unable to be here and always in our hearts...blah blah blah. So I'd prefer to include both in that tribute because 68 years of marriage...you don't get 1 without the other. Me on the other hand, my grandparents have both been dead more than 20 years. My question is how long is too long to say NOT have that tribute? Would it be corny if I decide to do the tribute?

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Latest activity by Shemetrus, on November 20, 2023 at 12:41 PM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    That’s personal preference. Some people who have a memorial list each person and others keep it generic with “those who are with us in spirit”. Some have a timeframe they prefer. Keep in mind that some guests may find it triggering if they are still grieving and it can dampen the mood even if that is not your intention. Another option is to incorporate things about them throughout the wedding. Maybe play their song during dinner or have a picture in a locket on your person. Maybe serve a food they were famous for.
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  • S
    Beginner October 2024
    Shemetrus ·
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    Thanks Michelle,
    Will take into consideration. 🙂
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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    I agree that having the memorial tables at weddings can definitely dampen the celebtatory mood. I can say from experience, it is definitely a downer for me when I see them, and I have seen them trigger others to tears (once to the point somebody had to actually leave the event). Personally, I would try to find a way to honor those loved ones in a positive, celebratory way. For example, you could display a photo of both sets of grandparents on their wedding days.
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  • S
    Beginner October 2024
    Shemetrus ·
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    That's a really nice idea. I'll see if I can dig up those photos. Thank you Cece.
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