Low Guest Attendance

So we are inviting between 100-125 people how many should I expect to come ? (Just to give an idea majority on both sides are family)

Be happy! Budget is 8,000 and our guest list is 300. Next sure how we're doing this yet! Remember only ones that matter our you and you FH!

Now I am worrying! I only have 50 Adult guest! Everyone is close family and they have all say they will attend, but with the wedding a year away anything can happen, I hope they do all come if not it will feel like a big room with only 25 people!

OMG Panicking here!

The funny thing about weddings is that as soon as someone gets engaged everyone says they want to attend but when it actually happens they don’t show!!. Our original list was 35 now that has jumped to about 50 including us. Well pretty sure the final count will most likely end around our 35. Also using a smaller space makes the room look full which will make you feel better! You will see the people and not the empty space!

It's a good number intimate our count was 75 and our response is 65 w 10 declines I'm happy you will get to interact and enjoy the time and not feel like you missed anything or anyone .

Overall, I think I'd prefer a smaller number that are happy to be there and excited to celebrate rather than a larger number that came out of obligation?

We're only inviting 60 people. I'll be happy with 40 or 50 people in our wedding. 😊 more intimate and Yay! More money for our honeymoon. Lol

We invited 165 and right now we're at 70 including us. We still haven't heard from about a good quarter of our list who didn't get their RSVPs in, but we think it will be closer to 80/90, 100 at the most. A lot of mine were out of state and it's a Friday so we didn't really expect a high number but I did get a few surprises of people coming that I didn't think would.

Yes, completely.

Ours is 38.

The lower number the cheaper it is!! My fiancé and I have realized that with wedding planning you found out who you are closest too.

Instead of being bummed, focus on the positive 😁 this will be a great day for you and your fiancé

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I totally agree! The same people who instantly ask if you they'll be invited (and can they bring 3 people ) tend to be the ones who turn around and decide your wedding is too expensive or too far to travel.

We invited 180, and our final count was 133. So we had a relatively lower guest count too.

On the day of, 50 people will feel like plenty, I promise! The love you feel on that day will outshine how many people are actually there!

We had 111 invited and 58 showed up. We really wanted 50 when we started planning. So our number was perfect and if it was smaller it would have been just as fun! We had a great time all night and were able to talk to everyone and party all night. I don’t think I left the dance floor. A year and a half later we have people telling us it was the best wedding they have ever been to.

FutureMrsC - I think 50 will be a perfect number!! It's big enough to still feel like a big celebration, but intimate enough that you'll really get to talk with everyone and they'll all feel like such a special part of your big day! You'll also spend way less time running around trying to greet everyone, so you'll be able to relax and enjoy your reception (and eat)!!

Also as a former October bride I know how busy October is! There could be a lot of other potential wedding and event conflicts for your guests. But now you have some flexibility if a guest or two comes out of the woodwork and wants to bring a plus one!

We invited 208 thinking we’d get about 175 but our final count is 138, FH and I were kind of disappointed we thought more people would make the effort to come and we feel bad because we would have invited other people had we known we would get so many no’s, the most frustrating part is at our deadline we still hadn’t heard from 25 people and had to track them all down and they were all
no’s, come on people it’s embarrassing for us and for you to be called out on not rsvping!

Based on my numbers I think yours is great! With a smaller guest count you also get to spend more time with everyone. We invited around 295. So far our yes's amount to 168 with 37 of that being kids. We also still have about 30 people to hear back from.

It is a little sad see that so many people declined but we were still think we would of been closer to 250. And honestly Save the dates don't do nothing. I sent them to pretty much 3/4 of the list and all the people I didn't send one to RSVP'd yes and the ones I did send it to RSVP'd no. I was a little bummed and irritated at first because of all the work we've put so far into the wedding thinking it would have been at least 250 (Our cake had to be due a month ago so it's 250 servings and same for our favors of cookies.) but the ones that care about us the most will be there no matter what. Now that we are finalizing the bar and catering I am happy the number is lower than expected.

I totally understand how you feel. That means you can redirect some budget money back into your wallet. Smaller means more intimate.

I’d be cool with 50. We invited 85. Our deadline is 10/1. We’ll see!!

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Definitely agree with this. We have almost 300 on our list (love them all), but the only thing I can think about is how I'm going to make my rounds to talk to everyone and thank them and still cut the cake, dance, etc. I'd be ecstatic with a wedding of 50! Enjoy your time with everyone and know that the ones who love you most will be there.

I’m in the same boat. We invited 110 people and so far only have about 63 people. It makes me a little nervous because we have to meet a minimum for cost on the day of....I wanted a huge party so trying to see the bright side of this.

Its nice to know someone else out there in WW community have the same thoughts and questions and feelings about their guests haha 😂