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Kathryn
VIP August 2016

Luck with changing finals to attend wedding

Kathryn, on April 23, 2016 at 5:25 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 24

One of our groomsmen just texted FH & said "Just so you know, there's a good chance I won't be able to make it to your wedding. I have a final for my summer class at 4 that day."

Should FH ask him to talk with the professor and see if he can take it early, or is that too demanding? Has anyone had any luck moving final exams to fit wedding schedules? I can tell FH is hurt that the friend hasn't really said he'd make an effort to see if he can get it changed. Thoughts? I just know FH will be hurt if one of his closest friends isn't there.

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Latest activity by Liraea, on April 26, 2016 at 11:46 PM
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    Just Said Yes March 2017
    Gia ·
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    If he was just a guest it might be demanding but if he is part of the bridal party he should definitely make an effort to change his final! The sooner he makes his professor aware of it the better chance he has of making other accommodations.

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  • EmilyJ
    VIP May 2016
    EmilyJ ·
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    Professors are usually accommodating, especially in summer class.

    On another note, a tad bit rude that he just texted like that. That's def a phone call or an in-person conversation!

    But....guys are well, guys.

    Hope everything works out!

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  • Kayla
    Dedicated January 2018
    Kayla ·
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    I have had luck moving finals before!

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  • Private User
    Super December 2016
    Private User ·
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    My friend was able to move his finals because for a wedding! It's possible

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  • Becoming a Mrs
    Master July 2016
    Becoming a Mrs ·
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    Professors are people too. They can be vey accommodating I have had them changed in the past as well as my brother. He actually got all his professors to move everything a week in advance for him one.

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  • Christinanyc
    Master December 2016
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    I would absolutely ask him to speak to his professor. I've done it a couple of times and usually, they didn't give me a difficult time. Speaking of friends who can't make it to events, our friend who is going to be our officiant had rsvpd 'no' to our engagement party because he had class that day. But he eventually asked his professor if he can leave early and he was able to make it.

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  • MissToMrs.S
    Devoted July 2017
    MissToMrs.S ·
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    I've had to move finals before. I was able to take them before the rest of the class it's usually not a big deal for the professor. I would have fh say something to him about moving it. If he was just a guest I wouldn't say anything but since he's a gm he should definitely try to take it early.

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  • cheresa
    Savvy November 2016
    cheresa ·
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    I am a professor and would definitely accomodate. He needs to actually talk to the professor and not email if it's not an online class. He also should provide some type of proof. We hear a lot of excuses or shall I say lies.

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  • KDS
    Super July 2016
    KDS ·
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    Also better if he asks now instead of towards the end of the semester.

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  • JamieLynn
    Master June 2016
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    It wouldn't hurt for him to ask. I only encountered this situation once and it was an emergency situation type deal, but I think if he explains that the wedding has been planed for a long time, etc - hopefully the prof. will be accommodating. Good luck.

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  • LizzyC
    Master April 2016
    LizzyC ·
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    It wouldn't hurt to ask. Professors are more likely to let him take it early rather than late though, so he needs to ask now

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  • MayBride
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    MayBride ·
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    It might not occurred to him that he could ask that it be changed. Have FH suggest and see what his friend says.

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  • Holly
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    Holly ·
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    I am a course instructor and I would not. There is a fair amount of cheating by undergrads at my school, so if I were to allow a student to take the exam early, I would likely have to write a brand new exam for him. Writing an exam takes a good amount of effort, and since the grades usually end up getting curved, it can be hard to calibrate the grading, since I might have accidentally written an easier or harder exam for him. I might consider it if the time he wanted to take overlapped with the normal final exam time i.e. there would be no way for him to share the exam details with anyone. I might be more inclined to have him take it later, so that the risk is one person cheating and getting a higher grade rather than one person distributing exam information and the entire class cheating.

    But there's no harm in asking, so he should, and he should ask sooner than later.

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  • FutureMrsW
    Expert December 2016
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    That's a bummer! Hope it works out for you guys!

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  • GabyJuly
    Devoted January 2017
    GabyJuly ·
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    He should ask and definitely sooner rather than later. If it's a summer class, he probably hasn't started yet so he could potentially e-mail the professor now since he already knows the schedule. As long as a student gave me either such advanced notice or proof of the wedding, I'd let him take the final early.

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  • The Royal Blue's
    Super July 2017
    The Royal Blue's ·
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    I would see if he could ask and see if it is a possibility.

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  • Rebecca
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    Rebecca ·
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    Professors should be able to work with him to move his final. If he asks to move it before the actual test they should be able to work with him

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  • Jenny92
    VIP May 2017
    Jenny92 ·
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    He should ask, most professors will let you take it a day before or a different version the day after if you ask in advance.

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  • Lbee59
    Super June 2016
    Lbee59 ·
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    I would be freaking out and have him talk to his professor.

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  • RJmargo
    Master May 2016
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    I agree that it probably didn't occur to him that he could take it at a different time. Since its a summer course, he may not know who the professor is yet. If he can't email right now, he should definitely email on the first day of the class. Not sure what time your wedding is, but he should either see if he can take it earlier in the day, the day before or the day after. I had to move a final or two around my senior year and had no problems.

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