Maid of honor cancelled

Why do you feel you have to replace your MOH? You don’t have to have an MOH.

I'm sorry this happened.
You don't have to replace the MOH. At this point anyone that you ask will know that they are the second choice.

Do not worry about filling the MOH role. There is absolutely no rule that says you have to have a MOH, and many people don’t! Just stick with the people you have already chosen for your wedding party and continue on as planned

Bethany! I’m so sorry for you! It’s completely understandable you would be devastated. Not all hope is lost - my brother did the speech for me at my wedding. Could you have a sibling step in? For what it’s worth, your bridal party is there for whatever you need and if I was a bridesmaid and the bride asked me to step into MOH role under these circumstances- I would be more than happy to do it!! What are friends for?! If there is more than one duty, could you ask the girls to each take a piece? If you can’t chose between them for the toast, perhaps a grandparent or godmother?

At the end of the day, to be quite honest, no one will even notice that you don’t have a MOH. All of the focus will be on you! This is your day! It sucks when things like this happen and when people unexpectedly back out etc. especially your MOH! I know it must be hurtful personally, but I don’t think you need to replace the spot. As far as pictures for your wedding video etc. goes people who see the pictures will have no idea who is your maid of honor and who isn’t. Do you have other girls in the wedding party? Maybe they could give the speech together? You don’t even need a speech technically. To be honest I’m actually worried about what my MOH will say Because she has zero filter LOL so we were thinking about skipping some of the speeches altogether! Just remember that the only person that needs to be there the person at the end of the aisle and you♥️ Hope this helps

I would move on and not stress about someone else; the day is all about you! 🤩

You don’t have to, and definitely shouldn’t, replace your MOH. That’s super hurtful to both her and the runner up. You’re correct that they’ll feel like a second choice because that’s exactly what they are.

If my MOH couldn't come due to covid, I would have had a sibling or my mother step in. In the church I was married in, I needed a maid of honor as an official witness, so I HAD to pick someone. When I thought my MOH might not be able to make it, my mother was going to serve as my MOH/witness

I'm sorry to hear that happened!

I wouldn't replace her role with someone else. There isn't a rule that says you HAVE to have a MOH. Stick with who you have now and go about as normal. 😊

Oh no, that's unfortunate. You don't need to replace her.

I know this is late, but I'm curious to know how you and your friend that was supposed to be MOH are doing?

Did she cancel due to travel and fear of COVID exposure? If so, are you guys okay or do you feel personally hurt by her cancellation?

View Quoted Comment Hi Mandy! Me and that MOH are still on very good terms. It was actually a he (gay best friend haha ), after the wedding we talked and some of his family members/his boyfriends family members were high risk and he didn’t want to chance traveling and potentially exposing them. I was completely understanding of it, a part of me wished the conversation happened sooner than that close to the wedding but I could never hold it against them and I was sympathetic as I know times were crazy then and still are! We still have a really good relationship and talk almost on a daily basis.


To update on the entire situation, I had my two sisters in my wedding party and the one stepped up as my MOH and I had both of them give a speech in place of it, so I at least had a person there to hold my bouquet and settle my dress and walk with the best man. They were both very sweet to step into that role and do so much for me on such short notice. They both also planned my entire bachelorette party in those little over 2 weeks and made my day so amazing, I’m getting emotional thinking about it. Even though I was nervous and stressed and panicking it all came together and worked out incredibly and I had the wedding of my dreams!
I added some pictures of them to highlight because they were angels