Hello everyone! I'm getting married in five days and my Maid of Honor doesn't have a dress.
I don't have a ton of friends so for my two bridesmaids I chose some girls I was friends with in high school (they both live in another state, I moved away after high school) and had maintained loose contact with over the years and still loved them very much. I figured if they felt awkward or unwilling to spend the time/money on the wedding they would decline and I would be fine with that. I also thought that they were both still the same people I had met in high school, just a little more mature. Boy was I wrong about my maid of honor.
This morning she texted me and told me that she doesn't have her dress, and that it was because the original dress she ordered was too big and couldn't be fixed by the tailors in her area. I had asked her for pictures of her dress when she said she ordered it several months ago but she never sent me any and I didn't want to seem like a bridezilla so I let it go. She told me the package was stuck in her apartments mail system or something and that she'd send me pics once she got it but she didn't. I'm not sure I really believe this story or that she even had the dress in the first place.
She told me this morning that she had sent the dress back and ordered a new one and it was originally supposed to be there on October 15th-19th but now says October. I asked a couple of times for the tracking info but she avoided the question and said "It also says it was sent out on the 11th which is wrong, ugh why is everything incorrect on their website?" but still didn't send me the info. We haven't really discussed it much more because I have absolutely no idea what to do or say.
She also flaked out on my bachelorette party my mom had mostly paid for. The other bridesmaid got covid (she was hospitalized, poor thing. She's doing just fine now though! She's had a while to recover) and couldn't come, and then my maid of honor suddenly wasn't feeling well and didn't think she could go either. This left me with one other girl since it was a very small party so I just cancelled it and apologized to my other friend.
I have no idea what to do if she doesn't have a dress. I can't prove that she didn't order it within a reasonable amount of time and I also feel guilty for asking her to be a part of this and spend money on it. I feel like I can't be mad at her because we were just old friends and she's still trying to be there for me. What would you guys do?
