Maid of Honor drama

My maid of honor removed herself from my bridal party a month before my wedding. This wedding has been particularly difficult to plan. I’ve had a lot of difficult decisions to make with my family and a lot of issues come up I’ve had to work through. I made the decision to give my current best friend the title of Maid of Honor and the speech. And I gave my other best friend since high school the bridal shower planning duties. It was important to me to honor both my friends since I don’t let a lot of people in my life. Now this wedding also represents a lot for me. It not only a union of two people, but it’s a celebration of how far we’ve come as a family. We’ve all been working hard and have made sacrifices to make this wedding a reality.
My maid of honor started expressing (very angrily) that she wasn’t being included in on any of the planning. I understood where she was coming from because I had withdrawn from a lot people but it wasn’t something I could change. I told her I would try to include her more, but it rubbed me the wrong way. This is my wedding and my time to plan in the way I need to. So I continued to plan everything with my mother. My bridesmaid was given full control of the bridal planning because at that point I had too much to think about. I was in overdrive mode trying to get things done. The most say I had in the bridal shower was approving things.
So when I sent out the invites to the bridal shower my Maid of Honor freaked out. She said that I had broken promises to include her, she claimed that I didn’t want her in my wedding, and that I didn’t talk to her about things anymore. She was upset that I had been planning more with my Bridesmaid than her. I told her I was sorry that it turned out the way it did. I tried explaining that I was going through a lot and planning the bridal shower was the last thing on my mind. I was upfront with her and told her that I wasn’t in a place to deal with conflict or drama.
She got even more upset and said that I didn’t understand what stress was because someone close to her had just tragically passed away. Which I’ve also had a death in the family recently that if she bothered to reach out to me she might’ve known about. I never closed the door on her completely. I never said “I don’t want you to be apart of this.” My bridesmaid even reached out to her to ask for some money to pitch in for the bridal shower. My maid of honor couldn’t because of her circumstances (which I completely understood) but she could’ve asked if she could pitch in some other way. She blocked me on all her social media and hasn’t talked to me since. It makes me sad. It makes me angry. I really don’t know what to think about it anymore. I know I could’ve done better, but honestly she wasn’t on my priority list. Spending time with my parents is what I’ve been needing.
Anyways I just needed to rant about it somewhere. And maybe I could get some outside opinions. Thank you for reading this.