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Just Said Yes July 2022

Maid of Honor Dropped out Via text

Ella, on January 20, 2022 at 3:02 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

Hi Brides to Be,


Just looking for some moral support. My mom died and I don't have any biological sisters. A close cousin of mine was supposed to be the maid-of-honor but dropped out via text message. I haven't asked her to do anything for the wedding, other than to pick a dress of her liking. She volunteered to do the bridal shower but there are other people who could have thrown that if that was the issue (aunts etc). She said she couldn't give me the support needed, and her job is having crazy hours. I wish she would have called, or even spoken to me about it first. I paid for professional hair, makeup, (all known to her) and customized leather jacket (which was a surprise), so I'm out of money there but that's not the issue, it's more of feeling so alone during this time.

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Latest activity by Jacks, on January 20, 2022 at 10:01 PM
  • Ashlee
    Super September 2022
    Ashlee ·
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    Why don't you take the initiative and call and check in with her? Maybe there's something else going on that she didn't tell you.

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  • mrswinteriscoming
    VIP December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    I agree with this - something feels off, and maybe she just didn't know how to tell you and panicked because she might be worried how you'd react. Get in touch with her and see if she is ok and talk things through Smiley smile

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    Just Said Yes July 2022
    Ella ·
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    Thanks ladies. Yes, I did speak with her but literally all I got was "I don't have time for anything right now" before ending the call. I think it is work-related stress, as she does work crazy hours, but other than that there's literally no wedding asks that have come in (aside from please order a dress of your liking). It very well could be bad anxiety from work, that's the best I can think of. So I'll just wish her well and keep moving forward without a bridal party.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Reach out to her and ask how she is without discussing the wedding at all. It’s possible that she is stressed with life or work or who knows what. I would wonder if she is able to attend the wedding. Because a bridesmaid really only needs to pick a dress and show up the morning of the wedding to stand by your side.
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    Dedicated January 2026
    Ladyray ·
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    I think by the sound of it, you’d know her better than we would about how crazy her work schedule is. There could be other things going on, but this happens sometimes.


    Stay strong, love! You can still let her know that there’s no hard feelings and that if things get less hectic you two can always catch up!
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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    I'm sorry to hear that. I think I would say that you could treat this as a "friend" problem vs a "wedding" problem. She must be really overwhelmed if she knows she can't be MOH months from now. Maybe plan some spa time with her as a way of being supportive?

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