Maid of Honor Duties

I'm honestly not having my MOH do anything lol, I just run ideas by her but I don't have her do anything. The only thing I'm expecting from her is to buy her dress and thats pretty much it. If she wants to throw me a bachelorette party thats up to her.

If your MOH has the funds and means she can throw your bridal shower and plan your bachelorette but she isn't obligated to. You can have her help however you think but there are really no "jobs" she should be doing.

Your bridesmaids do not plan the wedding. You and fiancé do that. The maid of honor is not formally asked before 6 months before the wedding because there is nothing for them to do besides buy a dress and accessories (jewelry, shoes. etc). She can plan (together with other bridesmaids) the shower and bachelorette party. Beyond that, just show up and have fun.

I think she is very excited and happy to help you!! Trust me - be grateful for this!! (I could barely getting my wedding party to show up to my bach party). Maybe you do the initial reaching out to the vendors but any details and follow up once you've met and signed with the vendors could be her job? Take tasks of the wedding that aren't important to you and have help her. These could be things like DJ playlist/introduction music/etc, any wedding decor, favors, invites, etc.

I would just tell her exactly what you said here. You appreciate her enthusiasm, but you and your fiance will handle vendor communications and the like, but you'd love her input for decor ideas and DIY projects.

MOH is supposed to plan the shower and bachelorette party, but beyond that, just be there to support you. I literally didn’t have my MOH do anything except be at my 3 guest covid wedding last year. Everything else was cancelled due to covid. I would just tell your MOH to relax for now and you'll let her know when you have ideas to share about your big day.

My MOH is the same way! My wedding is scheduled for 9/2/22, we already have the venue (ceremony, reception and catering all included), photographer, DJ (which includes officiant and Photobooth) and she keeps asking me what she can do and I feel bad I have nothing for her lol.

My MOH is my cousin and her and my mom are having a grand ol time figuring out my bridal shower for next spring, but she stills wants to do things with me.

I try to keep her in the loop as much as possible (let her know when vendors got booked, what I'm thinking as far as decor and flowers) and that seems to relax her lol.

I just keep reiterating that there's nothing to do right now and to relax before I start asking more of her lol.