Maid of honor hair retainer

If she’s interested in it and you’re not requiring a certain hair style then you can ask her if she’s interested and she could pay for it herself

Yes I would go ahead and pay it. I wouldn’t wait on her to give you the money to book. If she’s paying for her own hair you can just put that $25 on her final cost.

View Quoted Comment She said she wants her hair and makeup done

I’m paying for my sister’s, daughter’s & my hair/makeup. The other bridesmaid wants to do her own. It’s my thank you for being in my wedding.

View Quoted Comment That’s a good way of doing it. Thanks!

View Quoted Comment I got her one of those proposal boxes and then the day if I have a robe with her initials .. that doesn’t seem like a lot not is it normal for the bride to pay for the MOH hair

View Quoted Comment I know it’s not normal but my income is way more flexible then hers. My MOH is my sister & we’re extremely close. She’s has always been more of a mother figure (our mother passed) & has always been there for me. It’s the least I can do as she’s has picked up the tab many, many times!

View Quoted Comment That’s how me and my MOH are. We have been best friends since we were 10 we are now 30. It’s always been I pick it up or she does or I do whatever. So I’m thinking whatever I’ll just pay it cause I know she’s going to insist on paying for her hair and prob lie a lot more other things down the road

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Yeah these expenses are normally up to the bridesmaids and maybe if you can if you know one of them is struggling financially.

With a 9/21 wedding, it is really too early for such specific bookings. It is usually best to hold off on such things til 6 months or less. Planning too many things for bridesmaids too early often means having to renegotiate them all again later. What may seem a very reasonable plan to a BM now, may be very different in a year when she has cut her hair drastically, or been out of work, or drops out of the wedding entirely for healyh reasons. Concentrating on general guest things, and leaving specifics of WP things til the last 6-7 months, would have solved or prevented at least half of the BM and bride issues that come up as problems on these boards. Since BM dresses come in 2 weeks to 10 weeks after ordering, it is wisest not to get them til the last 4 months. That way you know they fit without having to pay $150-$250 in alterations because they changed sizes ( even 15 pounds) or got pregnant, on dresses that cost $100-$300 to begin with. Dresses available now may be discontinued. And things like whether or not someone definitely wants pro hair and makeup depend very much on the dress chosen, how it looks on ( reality, not a pic), and what your hair style is close to the wedding. I have been in weddings where 3 or 4 in the BP went from hair below their shoulders , for which they planned elaborate french braided or chignon styles, to very short wash and go, or 5 min with a curling wand, pixie or wedge styles, and watched things explode when 4 people told the bride not one of them was using the stylist she had paid $150 for each for HMU. $600, no refund, and ladies all saying, well you asked what we wanted too far ahead. Now we do not need it, and won't pay. You should not have paid deposits, or paid as gifts, for things we don't want. Over and over, things planned too early, end up as heartache. Wedding checklists and timelines often schedule things 4-8 months or more before they need doing. This greatly increases spending on weddings overall, the industry has found. WW, knot, bride, stylists all recommend locking yourself into as many expensive and unnecessary things as possible way in advance. Like this, hair styling payments 14 months in advance. If you want to plan your own, up to you. But if you plan others, very early, it is very likely you are planning something that will later be redone, once or twice. Often provoking stress between you and your ladies, at a time when the wedding party finally starts doing things at 6 months out. People who have not yet had weddings, or been involved planning before, see nothing wrong with planning for other people way in advance. But read postings of trouble with bridesmaids, or bm trouble with brides. And people quotting, or bride being angry and getting rid of people. Very often, what expectations brides have set, and when, are the source of trouble. Plan venues and menus and decorations, music and officiants. But leave any and all specifics for bridesmaids til next March. Browse through threads now. I read 3 this am where brodes are upset BM are not doing any of the things brodes and MOH have been asking/ telling them to do. But a quick date check shows the brides are asking way before things need to be done . Of course BM are not doing anything. They do not want to constantly tell the bride, backoff, you are 3-6 months early. So they do nothing. While brides steam, and think about getting rid of them. Complaining, I have been after them for months blah blah... for things that it is too early to do. Really, it is too soon by at least 8 months for you to be paying any money or agreeing to any services for bridesmaids.

View Quoted Comment I totally under what you’re saying but im having 1 MOH and that’s it. I’m also a hairdresser so hair and makeup is probably one of my TOO priorities because it’s literally my profession and my MOH has had the same long hair since we were 10 years old and we are 30 I don’t think she’s going to cut it anytime soon and if she did that’s totally fine I don’t care if her hair is up or down. It’s not me and her up there. She has free reign over what dress, style , fabric she wants I just picked the color. I don’t have a lot of people to have to worry about so locking things in early really isn’t a problem because nothing is really going to change. My MOH is my sons godmother and she already said she wants her hair and makeup done. I was just wondering do I just pay the retainer because it’s 25$ and not a big deal, pay for her hair and make up, or pay for it and add it onto the total later. Just seeing what other people were doing. She’s family so I’ll probably just take care of the bill since she does ALOT with my son and is very dependable always.

View Quoted Comment She’s not struggling financially I just didn’t want to like be idk inappropriate by asking her for something I should just take care of. I know she wants her hair and makeup done but it’s just me and her I don’t have any other bridesmaids just her as my MOH. Maybe I’ll pay for it and then get her something small after the wedding for a thank you? Since her MOH proposal box was super cute I got her a robe with her initials, a yeti personalized mug with her name , our wedding date , and MOH on it , little stuff like a keychain that says maid of honor, champagne I got labels for that ask if she would be my maid of honor , a maid of honor t-shirt and I have a bride one that matches , a personalized little compact mirror with her name on it and it’s pink like my wedding colors, a personalized white box with her name on it to put everything inside of and flowers. So maybe just pay for it and give her something small after ? That should be good enough right ?

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That's super cute! I think that's thoughtful and should be good enough