A little backstory, my maid of honor and one of the groomsmen were married but are now separated. I got engaged in April of 2020, and the maid of honor and groomsmen had been married for a year and a half at that time. They are recently separated as of May 2021. She now has a girlfriend, also, as of May 2021 and she is wanting to bring her girlfriend as a date. My wedding is in September, so the separation and new relationship is still going to be fresh. I’d just like to preface saying I don’t care who she dates, whether it be a man or woman, if this girl makes her happy, then that’s great, and that makes me happy. She hasn’t straight up asked me if she can bring her as a date, and when it came up in conversation, to me it seemed in joking matter and not a serious question, and I honestly thought she wanted to bring her to the wedding out of pettiness (bc that’s how she is) and just as a friend. I didn’t even know they were in a romantic relationship at that point, because prior to her dating this girl, she had been strictly straight, and she had distanced herself from me when her and her husband separated and we hadn’t talked about the separation, or her new relationship.
As of now she is still set on her bringing her girlfriend to my wedding as a date and im stuck on what to do. Her husband is in the wedding party, and my fiancé’s best friend and I know it would hurt him if she did bring her girlfriend. I also know it’d just cause unnecessary drama that I don’t care for or want.
I’m afraid if I tell her she can’t bring her girlfriend that she will think I’m like discriminating against her relationship, which is the farthest thing from what I’m trying to do. I’m afraid that if i tell her she can’t bring her as a date, that she will just be not 100% herself at the wedding and just be angry or upset or have an attitude the whole time. I also am just so scared that she’d just say screw it and not even want to be in the wedding which would absolutely destroy me. I don’t want to make her angry or upset or anything. I’m a people pleaser and I just want everyone to be happy. I hate conflict, and usually I’d just let other people have their way to avoid the conflict as a whole. But I’m just really stuck on what to do, what to say, or if it even should be an issue at hand.
I’m sorry if non of that makes sense, I’ve been stressing about this for awhile and wasn’t sure the best way to ask lol
