Hey! I am new here and I need some advice. One of my closest friends for 6 years ditched me and went MIA. I made her my MOH for my wedding this December and now I am confused. To give a quick back story, my friend moved out of state about 6 months ago because New York pricing was way too expensive for her and she is a single mom and at the time she was pregnant with her second child, so she needed more space without breaking the bank. She informed me weeks in advance, that she was coming to New York to handle family court matters with her ex. Since moving out of state, she has started casually dating a few guys, but one guy she has been seeing more than the others but has not made it anything official and she was planning on bringing this guy with her up to New York as moral support at family court.
When the time came and she was in New York, she did text me late in the evening that she was here in New York with this guy and safe. She asked me if "we" could visit that day, and I told her no because it was Father's Day and I already had plans with my fiance and our baby to go out. I told her she can visit tomorrow after 12PM since the baby takes his nap around that time. She kept responding with "we" will be there. I was confused by her language of "we" because it's Covid, I don't want anyone around my child who is not vaccinated. And more importantly, I did not want a man I never met in my house. I got caught up with my fiance and my baby to text her immediately back. So that morning, I texted her my new address and clarified with her if it's just her coming because I don't know this man that she is with and I am not comfortable. After that....radio silence.
Noon came and I have not heard anything from her, I figured she was busy packing because she was supposed to leave to go back home later that night around 7 pm. Once it turned like 6 pm, I knew she wasn't coming because her train was scheduled to leave at 7:45 PM. I sent her a quick text asking if she was okay because she never got back to me about coming over to see me and the baby and I wished her safe travels. At like 8 PM, I still didn't hear from her, which concerned me because I would think she would let me know she was on the train or why she couldn't make it over. I did try to call her it rang a few times and went to voicemail.
She has never done something like this before, if she couldn't make any engagement she would let me know unless she was sick. The last time she went MIA and miss my baby shower 2 years ago, she was in the hospital for food poisoning. I was starting to get concerned after 24 hours of her not responding. I knew which hotel she was at, and was going to call in to see if she checked out if I don't hear from her. Finally, after 48 hours, she posts on Facebook a picture of herself with a status saying, "Life is good when you are loved by the right person." Basically indicating that she might be in a relationship with the guy she brought to New York, but she explicitly mentions to me in the past that she wanted to focus on her kids because she has 2 kids under 2 and she just met this guy 2 months ago and wanted to take it slow.
All of this has been very confusing to me. She has continued to post on Facebook and other platforms. We are friends on all social media platforms, but she has yet to send me a message, call, or any form of communication and it has been 2 weeks. I texted her again yesterday and nothing.
I am just not sure how to go about handling this situation from a MOH or Friend perspective. I am sorry if this is long. But it is so weird to me because this has never happened before and so abruptly.
