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July 2020

Maid of Honor issues!!

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Jill, on May 29, 2020 at 6:53 PM

Hello everyone!

I am the mother of the bride and my daughter has chosen a friend , who my husband and I absolutely dislike, to be her Maid of Honor. This girl and my daughter have a long history of ups and downs, drama and friendship. This girl and I do NOT get along and the situation has deteriorated to the point where she doesn't acknowledge me at all. She ignores me and wont even look at me. She gets along with my husband, for the most part, but doesn't like me at all. I know I can't control who my daughter picks for her maid of honor, but I am very concerned for what will happen on the wedding day. The thought of this girl being in that position just makes me sick to my stomach.
Does anyone have any advice on how this should be handled or has anyone ever been in my position before?
Help! Sincerely,Wedding Day Distraught

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Judith · on May 30, 2020 at 9:17 PM
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But she won't actively be doing any of these things at a wedding. Just keep your distance.
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Judith · on May 30, 2020 at 9:32 PM
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90 other people at a fun party. Why would she spend time gossipimg about someone like you who is no where near her, not interacting with her? You referred to her having been troublesome when your daughter brought her as a guest before. But then there were fewer people there, and you were her hostess, and you were mother of her friend, active roles that made conflict more likely, or at least friction. and you were in a rule setting position. At the wedding, YOU are a guest. Except for saying, my that dress is very flattering, or some other sociable nothing, you are not setting any rules, and have no reason to interact. Why would she seek you out? Don't say anything, smile from no closer than 8 feet, how will she / why would she do anything?
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Shannon · on May 30, 2020 at 10:27 PM
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I will say a prayer for peace for you.
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Maggie · on June 1, 2020 at 12:39 PM
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And now we finally get to root of this. It's not about your daughter at all but about a person not "respecting" you.
No one here is going to be able to convince you that this person you dislike is worthy of being your daughter's friend, but none of that matters. What matters (for the context of this forum) is that you absolutely have the power to ignore any so-called disrespect shown to you on your daughter's wedding day, thereby preventing any "drama". This is in your hands; choose your actions wisely.
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RaylaSan · on June 2, 2020 at 1:38 AM
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Just deal with it, and be there for your daughter when she needs you to be.
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