Maid of honor problems.

No. They're supposed to show up to dress picking and the wedding in said dress that was picked. Any thing else is optional. If you are lucky you pick a close friend who supports you the entire time but that's why picking a bridal party is harder than it looks

Why do you feel like she is ignoring you?

You can't expect her to drop everything for the next month but hopefully she will stop ignoring you at least in the name of friendship.

Why do you feel ignored? Give more details so we can respond...

Your fiance is supposed to be there for you throughout the whole process, but really, no one cares as much about the wedding as the couple actually getting married. It's hard to give advice with so little detail, but many a Maid of Honor has grown extremely sick of talking about wedding stuff when the bride doesn't realize that she has her own life.

Could your friend need a little bit of "non-wedding" conversation?

Technically her only responsibility is to show up in the dress.

The MOH is not there to help you plan the wedding, contrary to popular belief perpetuated by TV and movies. All she really needs to do is buy the dress and show up. If she's nice and can afford to, she'll throw you a shower or a bachelorette party (but this is not required of ANYONE and if nobody throws these things for you, you just don't have them).

No one cares as much about your wedding as you do. If all you do is talk wedding with her, that might be a reason why she's ignoring you. Sometimes days pass before my bridesmaid texts me back....they all have separate lives outside of your wedding day.

Well she never response to my messages or text message but be on Facebook. She only texts me when it's about her life. She went with me to get my dress, but when I went back to pick it up she couldn't go and I understand that cause she didn't have a babysitter, but I had to get a new dress due to the fact I had got pregnant. So I sent her a picture of my new dress and didn't even tell me she liked it or anything she just said I don't understand why you had to get a different one.(even though she knew).

Well I didn't expect to be the there through everything. But some things I didn't understand I asked her about she wouldn't never tell me anything. So when I messed something up she would correct me . even though she ignore the fact I asked for help with some things.

A maid of honor doesn't need to go with you to pick up your dress, and it sounds like maybe she's a little sick of wedding talk?

Take her out to lunch or something, and talk about anything but the wedding!

She barely even talk to me about regular stuff..

Well anyways. Thank you everyone for yalls inputs. I haven't a clue what I'm doing. And no one really as told me or knew.

Have you asked her if you've done something to offend or upset her? When stuff like this happens, it's important to think of it as a 'friend issue' rather than a 'wedding issue', because hopefully you intend to have your friendship stretch beyond the wedding.

Oh yes. I do plan on having her as a long friend. But every time I do she just says she's been busy. Which I understand that we have lives and families to take care of, but it only takes a second to reply back in your spare time. Obviously of you can be on Facebook you can reply back to a simple text... Idk if I'm just being moody (as she puts it) or what. I'm stressing out. My wedding day is May 1st. No one is corporating

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Just make sure that she has the needed details for the rehearsal and schedule for wedding day. Then let it be.

I had a friend to get distant during the planning process as well and it turned out that she was dealing with a few personal issues and did not want them to put a damper on my happiness and excitement. I agree with the other ladies. Take her out to lunch, no wedding talk and give her a break. Even better if you could do something kid friendly so you have something for her child to do as well as give her time to talk.

Let's take it back to basics -- what are you expecting and what is she delivering?

You asked, "Isn't your MOH supposed to be there through the entire process?". No, she isn't. YOU, and you alone (add you FH to that equation), are supposed to be there through YOUR entire process. Depending upon her location, lifestyle, and personal commitments -- all of which you should be aware if you have chosen her to be your MOH -- she'll either be at your beck and call, or more likely, available sporadically.

We have women on this board who barrage their honor attendants with binders, monthly meetings, weekly updates, and then expect these career women/mothers to commit their few spare hours to glittering, painting, fake flower arranging, addressing invitation envelopes, showers, and planning bachelorette parties that will consume all of the attendants' discretionary income. Some brides expect their honor attendants -- especially their MOHs -- to attend every bridal fitting. That isn't a priority for women who have a professional presentation to prepare, a few kids to pick up, a sick parent to look in on, or a weekend afternoon that could have been spent catching up with household chores and dinner. You wouldn't believe some of the nonsense brides expect their MOHs to do for them.

So, what do you want from your MOH? Be specific.

According to WW they're not "suppose" to do anything but buy a dress and show up but i guess it also depends on how strong your relationship is with your MOH mine is on top of everything for me shes constantly asking what ive done and what needs to be done etc. But You can always write on her wall (FB) and say hey I miss you we should hang sometime. And see if that works

Why don't you just ask her?