Needing some advice.
My soon to be sister in law was appointed as my maid of honor. She has barely reached out during the wedding planning, and so on. There has not been much support on her end. Therefore, my good friend of 20+ years has stepped in to help me out. However, my soon to be SIL was upset with me in regards to dress shopping, and not bringing her along, meanwhile I explained that I never anticipated to go dress shopping. It was spur of the moment and my friend wanted to go for fun. Sure, I should have had a formal appointment and invited her, of course, but I never planned on doing all of that. I never even planned on purchasing my dress the first time I stepped into a bridal salon... She brought this up to my fiancé and asked that I reach out to her. She wouldn't even initate the conversations with me... this was two months ago and she just brought it up last night. I did apologize, and told her it was not intentional.
Anyhow, She is also my cosmetologist, so of course, I asked her to do my hair the day of my wedding. She gladly agreed back in May and asked that I send her some photo ideas for what I would like. I had the feeling that I should text her and ask if we should do a trial since it is coming up soon (08/28) and she came back with "Well we aren't leaving until the morning of so it may be a little hard for me to do your hair." Yikes... glad I reached out.. I told her it's understandable as we are doing a destination wedding (only 2.5 hrs away) and we are getting married in the morning around 10am. However, I am a little upset. She doesn't seem to care to want to be there with me the morning of, never thought to mention she would not be doing my hair morning of, and so on. I told her it's no problem I can make other arrangements. But this is all beginning to really upset and hurt my feelings. My bestfriend took the entire day off before to be with me, and go up with me, and stay with me. She will be with me the morning of. But my Maid of Honor doesn't seem to care about any of this. Never once did she attempt to take time off of work, or offer to be with me, or offer to help with anything. I feel very unsupported and very lonely. I don't know what to do from here... Thankfully, my bestfriend is also a cosmetologist so I know she would be happy to help. But it's just the fact that I took the initiative to mention it and now find out less than a month before that she isn't even going to be there with me on my big day or willing to accommodate to do my hair.
